Sorry Cest, sounds really draining to have such a constant in your life.
Thanks Optimist . Oh I don't know anymore, I can't even guess what he is like. I know he was out and he was on form, then he pretended to come home to his friends but got in his car again. I think if I do anything to get him attention he is going to look fine and I will look like some sort of crazed vindictive woman who isn't happy with separating.
I think his depression is being numbed with alcohol and weed, In-fact, i think he has just been drunk all week. All speculation though.
I did see him on friday, suprise suprise he hasn't been paying for the garage which is rented and he had to come back and empty it. The house is now jam packed with more crap. He had the same clothes on, a huge beard ( think Anchor Man when he loses his dog) and looked completely wired. But his friends said he was on form, so is it just for me? I also know he has been getting into work. He seems to be going through the motions, which is better than last week.
Anyhow, i quizzed him, he said he was miserable and went, insisted he just sleeps in his car.
Some might say if he was lucid enough to come and empty the garage, well he is ok. But he is not paying for the garage, or facing bailiffs and repossession, isn't.
I'm not going to do anything for now,I can't tbh, he is back out and about, not facing long term real life, but it's a start. It's going to be one of those situations that has to be played by ear. I may end up ringing the police if I get notice he smells again or isn't working.
For the moment I am concentrating on packing.