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My NINE year old is growing boobs- help!

16 replies

littlestmummystop · 11/04/2010 00:35

She started the pubic hair last year.

It tried to ignore it and think it would take ages for other bits to kick off.

Now I can see teenager tantrums kicking in.. she is defensive, critical of me in ways she wasn't before.

Any tips.

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Fizzfiend · 11/04/2010 00:49

Not surprised....my dd is nowhere near but her classmates are all growing boobs and getting shirty. I would say...think of this as a less steep learning curve than the rest of us!

And ... still treat her as a child, because that is what she is. She will probably do all this teenage stuff one moment, then want mummy's cuddles the next. Blame it on horrid hormones. I'll never forget telling my mum to p* off ... and I love her to bits now of course. Hang in there!

LittlePushka · 11/04/2010 01:01

The hormones that control the hair growth are different to those which control breast development. Hair usually comes first. You may find that her chest will sort of "bud" but not develop fully for a while. It could be precocious puberty, but at nine that is not uncommon.

DidEinsteinsMum · 11/04/2010 01:02

unfortunatly perfectly normal this age, it might mean though that she is more hormonally balanced at the more difficult time of 14-16 when a lot of girls (and boys) are hormonally unbalanced and problematic.

I suspect she feels the same way tbh. Most of her firends wont be developing yet and she could feel very uncomfortable in her own skin. She needs to be reassured about it and made aware she is not a freak

Be her mum, do what you would do, and accept that somethings are not meant as they come across and thus not personal.

maduggar · 11/04/2010 08:20

My 9 year old DD is exactly the same, apparantly its very common attheir age. I was quite upset when I first noticed, I hated puberty and actually cried at the thought of her going through it at this age. She hates to talk about it, so have left books in her room for her to read, and she knows to come to me with any questions she has.

sweetcat · 11/04/2010 08:28

Maduggar, would you mind telling me the titles of the books for your DD? I think my DD might prefer books than her old Mum blathering on

She is 10 in aa week and has pubic hair and mini boobs so she needs some info but I feel I am inadequately prepared. My Mum told me nothing so don't want DD to be the same

sweetcat · 11/04/2010 08:30

sorry, littlemummystop, realised I butted in on your thread a bit there

1pregheadpumpkin · 17/04/2010 17:46

once its started you cant stop it. i statted my period at 9, boobs, hair, the lot. christ. but, it just means the rebllious stage is shorter and over before its begun. she'll be your best friend again by the time she's 13.

cory · 17/04/2010 18:13

Why unfortunately, everybody? I love having a teenage daughter And starting puberty a bit early caused no problems I can see. She was far more rebellious as a toddler; the teens are the quiet time as far as we are concerned.

jensterBTN · 13/03/2011 21:35

my daughter's 9 too and has started to grow mini boobs. I've been uncomfortable about thinking of them as boobs as she's got quite tubby and I wasn't sure if that's what was causing them. Silly really - better just to accept it and help her to deal with her feelings. None of her friends are changing yet and she feels embarrassed. Also, she's anxious about being tubby - and meanies in the playground saying she's fat. She wants me to get her a crop top as they wobble when she runs, but I've been reticent as I didn't want to draw attention to them in case she got more teasing. Now though I'm thinking I should just do everything I can to help her be comfortable - both physically and mentally.

@sweetcat I recommend 'Let's talk about Sex' by Robie H Harris. Totally comprehensive, clear and factual but also very gentle and inclusive. I bought it for my son but it gets left lying around the house so that either of them can look at it whenever they want.

bingethinker · 13/03/2011 22:21

Crops tops useful as they can be tender too.

I asked my daughter if she wanted to talk about it, Nooo! So i asked her if she wanted me to leave her some books to read and she could ask me. No, she replied emphatically. We are having puberty training at the end of year 6 and I will know all about it then.

I love the thought of puberty training, he he :)

letsgetloud · 13/03/2011 22:22

My daughter was nearly 8 and a half when I noticed her chest area changing. She now at 8 and 9 months has developed bigger nipples with breast area underneath.

Her class mates haven't developed yet. I think she has shown her class mates or at least one friend hers.
Friend and her were discussing breasts last night and friend told her she had bigger breasts than her. Dd1 piped up, "I know, I have one humungeous (sp) one " Grin

For a couple of months one had developed and the other hadn't. The other one has caught up now Wink.

I haven't noticed changes elsewhere on her body.

Someone on mn recommended a good book to get her. She now has it up in her bedroom so will get the name of it tomorrow and post it here.

It is aimed at the younger end of the puberty scale.

squeakytoy · 13/03/2011 22:24

A sports bra might be a good compromise Jenster.

Kally · 14/03/2011 11:46

My daughter developed early as well (but then so did I) she had boobs at about 8 and then by the time she was in the last year of primary she got her periods. I think there was one other girl who had periods at the time.
Since there is nothing you can do to delay any of this puberty, the best you can do is be supportive and minimize the 'drag' of it all, but just welcoming her into the grown-up world. Her periods were quite heavy as well and yet she bumbled along with it all and made sure she always had pads, tissues etc, as primary schools are not geared with the right things.I thought she would be irregular at first but her monthly period started and then arrived on the dot each time.It's not easy for them, but I just 'normalised' it and made as little fuss as possible so she's cope better.Now she's just turned 13, her boobs are big and lovely, her periods regular like clockwork and copes well and she doesn't have any hangups at all about herself. One way or another, they all catch up with each other!

bibbitybobbityhat · 14/03/2011 12:00

My dd is 10 and a bit and is developing breast buds. No pubes yet! We talk about it all in a fairly casual way. I have had a very quick chat with her about periods and bought her some pads to keep in her drawer so she's ready. Above all I want her to feel able to talk to me about this so I am trying to keep the conversations light and even a little bit of a laugh, rather than sitting down with her and having a big chat. We had a giggle the other night cos she was in the shower and said "look Mummy, my dimples are getting bigger" - she meant nipples, bless her. God I love her.

piratecat · 14/03/2011 12:02

dd is 8 and her nipples grew, sort of nubby when she just turned 8, and she had alot of pain.

nearly nine now and they are still tender.

piratecat · 14/03/2011 12:08

have to add, dd started to get sweaty armpits too last year, and she thought it was very funny when sometimes it was just the one pit!!

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