So?
The way I read it is that you had a shit experience thats now affecting your relationship with your dh.
In a nutshell the physical side is needing some work?
talk
to each other,tell him what you need what youd like and work it through - practice intimacy during the day hugs and little kisses.
Hes not to blame for what happened but he can hold you hand and help you up the hill to recovery.
you can work through this.
small steps x
Get off that settee get in bed with the father of your children and start tomorrow new.