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Quick Question - Do we follow our head's or our heart's??

Both, they're one and the same for me - my decisions are always based on my instincts / feelings, I'm never wrong.

Head, the heart will follow.

By Malificence Wed 07-Apr-10 11:16:46
Both, they're one and the same for me - my decisions are always based on my instincts / feelings, I'm never wrong.

Wow. Arrogance personified. Nobody is right all the time - not even you.

OP - use your head most of the time and only use your heart when it is accompanied by your gut.

Yes, that's what i thought, instinct. Thank you.

Why am I arrogant to know that my decisions about things ( that concern me/my family) have always been the right ones?

My "instincts" are never wrong , whether to do with people or situations.

Depends on the circumstances for me Mal, heart when its chocolate or red wine and head if it inolves anything serious.

It's not arrogant at all.

head's or heart's what?

follow your head's what? or follow your heart's what?

Ok enough of the pedantry.

For me, it's head over heart, but my heart will tell me what to think about, and then I will think about it and use my head, and then hopefully still follow my heart.

Wha's up? You got a dilema?

There's always a pedant onboard.

Maliface I don't think it sounds arrogant, but surely you have made some mistakes? Otherwise how do you learn? Or do you just mean that you never regret anything or view anything as a mistake? Because I'm with you there, I don't regret anything I have ever done, it has lead me to where I am today,.

overmydeadbody yep pretty much, just deciding if it's just me being silly or their is actually something in it, like my gut is telling me.

I don't tend to base my decisions on instinct or feelings, everythgin is thought through.

what is it you think you're being silly about? You got a gut instinct about something?

Usually, while we may think something is a gut instinct, our mind has actually already done some subconscious thinking and evaluating about the situation, it just seems a gut instinct because we are not aware of all the thought processes that go on subconsciously that bring us our instincts.

I was in a abusive reltionship before, so i know all the sign's, i am now in a new one and i don't know if i'm getting the same sign's again or i'm just being over sensitive.

oh gosh
I would say in that situation follow your gut instinct

I wad there once too.

What are the warning signs you are worried about? Talk then through on here

Wanted to be with me ALL the time, but there again is it just cause it's like the honeymoon phase.

Jealously.

Sorry, not much to go on as my mind has gone blank.

It's just me isnt it?

Wanting to be with you all the time isn't necessarily a saign that he is an abuser.

But the jealousy is more serious. How did it manifest itself?

How long ahve you been seeing him?

Gut instinct, every time. Never be fooled by anything else.

Thing is, we haven't been together long couple of month's at the most.

It's not even anything, we talk about day to day thing's and he doesnt want me to go on my own with this friend because she is meeting a man, almost anything trigger's a argument and he think's every man is going to try it on with me.

I've made ( what looked to other people to be insane or irrational) decisions based purely on my feelings/instincts and have never been proved wrong, if that's what you mean overmy.

The couple of times I've been swayed and gone against my feelings, particularly when it's about other people ( DH is a far more trusting soul than I and tries to see the best in people) I've been proved right in my initial judgement, unfortunately for DH.

Sunshine - you're bound to be cautious and wary, is it low level "normal" jealousy, or something more sinister?

Well, he was cheated on before and i think that is where it has come from, talking about it, i don't think it is control with him think he is a bit insecure.

Sometime's he just seem's a bit full on, but maybe that's because i like my space and other than the jealously he is loving and caring.

You've been together a couple of months and have arguments?

Ditch him. Now.

But i have known him for year's