I was in an abusive relationship, I think it's very hard to move on and have a good relationship after going through such an awful situation, I can relate to you not trusting your own judgement, I found it hard to make decisions because I hadn't been allowed to for such a long time.
Have you considered being friends with him whilst having counselling?
When I got together with my DH, he had been cheated on and I had just come out of an abusive relationship, we found we argued quite a bit after the initial 6 months/ properly moving in together but we knew it was our experiences that were colouring our views so we went for counselling, it was so helpful, we worked out how to move on and we are very strong, we have been together for 8 years now and recently got married, we have the odd row now and again but over all we get on really well, work well as a team, love and respect each other and are happy.
Don't stop doing things you want to do/ have always done just because he will sulk/ take issue if you do and don't walk on egg shells because when you start to do that you are allowing his behaviour and its a slippy slope and getting out is very hard as I'm sure you know, so before you go for it I would be very cautious.