he always said it would never happen again

[MyHeartIsbreaking]

but it did.
i said it would be the end if he ever did it again.
last night because of someone taking two lots of money from our account instead of one, and because i had called them to make sure they didnt, it was my my fault as i sit on my fat arse all day and play games.
when i told he how dare he speak to me like that and he was a nasty b***d, he waved his fist n my face and said that he was this close from hitting me, i ignored it and carried on looking for the number to sort the money out and he pushed me over the settee.
i walked out of the room and that was it.he hasnt apologised nor shown any remorse this morning
i have a big bruise on my arm where he pushed me
im sat here now, not having any close enough friends to talk to and my little one keeps asking why im so sad

you've got to leave. life is too short to put up with this type of rubbish.

for ten years we have had such a firey relationship..not vilont, just arguing, i just dont no where it started going wrong

Message withdrawn

why me, i try so hard to please everyone

MHIB,If you can't face leaving him, then have a good think about whether this is how you would like the relationship to stay. I doubt it is so you must do something as nothing will change otherwise.

alright then, MHIb, what happens if you try to talk to him?
Do you think you can "fix" his violence? Do you think you can talk him around? Do you think he's willing to acknowledge he did something wrong? What do you think the magic words might be that you need to say to him?

Prove us wrong, find out that these really were just one off moments of madness, and that you & your child are not at risk.

Message withdrawn

this is going to sort stupid, but he's not vilent, we argue and name call, but thats it
i do want to talk to him, and i know im sounding now like a pathetic woman whos covering for him but im not.
i want to make him realise what he's done, tell him it cant happen and ask him why and get him to seek help for his moods(he has depression but wont get help for it)

MHIB, you can't please a violent man. They will always find an excuse. They pick partners who will try to please them. Maybe unconsciously, but they do.

Honestly, honestly, you can't fix this, you have to leave. Please, please call Women's Aid now: 0808 2000 247. They have listened to 1000s of women in your situation. They won't judge you, but they can offer you support and safety. Please just take that first step and phone them. Pick up the phone and dial. You don't have to be strong to do that, you just have to pick up the phone.

You are not pathetic. And no-one here thinks badly of you or will think badly of you if you don't act in the way we are suggesting. But please do use that phone number while he's out of the house.

what will womens aid do?

but why do i have to leave?i have a littleoone, needing cot, clothes, toys, food, nappies,as well as all my stuff

leaving is the only way to change things for the better
You sound SO unhappy now, how can leaving be worse? if he is going to change this is the way to find out
if he isn't, you know you've done the right thing in any case

but i dont have any family or friends i could go to and i dont want to cause my little one any upheavel or upset

Message withdrawn

then he should leave
how old is little one?

we dont get to go out together anymore, or time alone except when little one gos to bed and then ispend my night on here, so if he did have something to say, i wouldnt be around to listen

where is he now, at work?

you know that answer ggglimpo
shes 2

You have to leave because he will attack you again, very sadly. It will get worse. Lots of people have been here and the men involved don't stop.

Women's Aid will listen to you and give you a place to go. They won't judge you. They will help you get away. You can put nappies and clothes in a suitcase. They will make sure you get food and they will have a cot. They can help you apply for benefits so you have the money you need to support your baby.

If you stay, your baby will grow up either being hit or watching their daddy hit their mummy and maybe even worse. Please call WA.

yes he is, but he's supposed to be finishing half day as we were meant to be taking somme presents up to his sisters

Then you need to make that phone call NOW. Please do this for your baby and your own safety. Think about what you want for her when she's grown up. How would you feel if she was in this situation?

Look at it from this angle , you say you have no confidence and are scared with who you are. This is not a man who is going to save you. Your confidence will not get any better with him around. Even if he he isn't always violent you can never ever forget he has been. Either you will try not to get him angry and go into yourself some more, or you will start to blame yourself. The longer you leave it the worse you will get and you will be weaker and weaker with each passing year. I am sure you look back and see your strength diminishing. Don't let it get any further, save some of it, get away and build yourself back up. It isn't an easy process but the results will completely outway those that you are heading towards now. if you get away from this man you can eventually feel you again, if you stay you will loose the old you forever.

i shouldnt have posted here, i knew what the advise would be and i suppose i new i wouldnt be able to do it, i know its not right i just felt so alone, my mam just rang and i cut the call short saying i was busy, she suffered terribly at the hands of my father, so in comparison, my situation is nothing

so has no one ever been able to overcome this sort of situation without leaving?