Dont know what to do now

[dontgiveashite]

A couple of weeks ago i went away with dd visiting family, dh stayed at home because of work.

While away i suffered a miscarriage so stayed a bit longer at my parents then i would have.

When i got home dh was very pleased to see us and everything was normal. DD was playing with dh´s mobile so i took it off her and went to block the phone when i saw some messages from a woman saying " thanks for sorting the flat out gorgeous, much appreaciated" i dont know this woman.

I didnt say anything to dh as i wanted to see if he got more messages (yes i will probably get flamed for looking at his phone,but what was i supposed to do)
Well he did the next one read " hi gorgeous, you know i only want to be with you" i couldnt read anymore as dh walked in and snatched the phone from me. I asked dh what it was all about and he says it is just some silly teenage girls (THEY are 19) texting him who worked for him (he has own business)

We had an argument about it, he says he was bored while i was away "enjoying" myself at parents and it meant nothing and wont happen again, and now he seems to think everything is back to normal. He has deleted the womans number and there hasnt been anymore texts to my knowledge.

But i feel i cant trust him anymore.

How am i supposed to go back to trusting him?

So are gunna have it out with him again? Tell him to explain everything that happened while you were away, and how he got texting her/them in the first place?

It's obviously not resolved, I wouldn't drop it until it was and I wouldn't let him fob me off with bullshit excuses about how it's 'my fault'

Thanks for the advice everyone.

Im not going to have it out just yet, Im going to play along with his game,act normal. I want to wait and see if i can find some more proof first, i might buy a sim card reader (didn´t even know what one was until whenwilli posted lol)

But i do want to get to the bottom of this and know why he is treating me like shit.So i will be having it out with him.

Im also going to take all your advice and seek legal advice as to where i stand if we do spilt up. It just seems so unfair that it would probably be dd and I who have to uproot as a result of his behaviour.

good luck dontgive x

Just a word of caution, my mother did the 'play along with his game' and the 'collecting evidence' and it went on for 17 years.

I think he has had sex with someone else, and didnt care enough about you finding out to hide it very well. Keep your dignity and good luck.