My husband thinks he doesn't get enough.

[darcymum]

Come on then how of often do you do it? Is the average really three times a week?

poshwellies or half way up the stairs, or passing in the hallway, or while cleaning your teeth in the bathroom ...

Every other night on average but sometimes evrynight and other times we can go a few days...More than a week without and we are both irritable

lol oblomov @ carpet burns

I have "dining table" burns at the moment

my sacrum is red raw

we do it most days. but when dp is off work (as he has been for the last 3 days) its usually twice a day ;) we have a 3 YO (well the 3 yo is from a prev relationship of mine) and a 9 month old, so i think its pretty good going really ;)

we have only been together 2 1/2 years though... hope it doesnt change with time, but we were just saying this morning how we cannot get enough of eachother.

-smug emoticon-

Sorry - I don't know where I came up with the expression "wet hump" but I meant all the things subsequently listed by others so I guess I meant a quick 'pop in and say hello' in the most inappropriate circumstances/ location - not a fan of it tbh

magnolia - I am impressed that you manage all that with 5 kids!

AF, the trick is to be bent forwards over the dining table.No bad back plus a shiny table!

Who mentioned cherry lube? (vomit )

10-15 minutes, that's not even foreplay, I'm only just getting warmed up after 20, obviously a slow burner .

abinsthe - It's not easy as ds1 (3) is also a human sex detector in the mornings and the 14yr old is awake till late but I've learnt to be quieter

Having an older one to take the others to the park for an hour at weekends helps

Gosh - can't imagine what it would be like with teenagers around!

With the right person, would be at least 3-4 times a week, possibly several times a day at certain times of the month .

I agree with the over 40 thing. My libido was awful in my 20's - 30's.

However, I currently have no-one to do it with.

Maybe that's why my libido is through the roof though.

Teenagers have generally got laptops and tv's with headphones on .
If they're in scouts etc. even better as they have regular weekends away.
When they bog off to Uni, it's even more brilliant.

Scouts - I was planning that for ds but just didn't realise what would be the best thing about it

-- Pre DD, about 5-6 times a week.

-- Post DD, and PRE pregnancy with DC2, about 2-3 times a week.

-- Post DD (11 months) and now at 25 weeks, about once a week, if we're lucky. Am cream crackered.

But am going to put out tonight, now I've seen how starved DH is compared to some on here. Lucky him I stumbled on this thread tonight.

Why do so many women think that sex is only for the man's benefit??????

It's essential for your own emotional and physical health, not to mention bringing couples closer in every way possible.

It shouldn't be something you let him do to you, it's a joint pleasure to be shared and thoroughly enjoyed.

As per Nike - JUST DO IT! An orgasm (or two) a day is good for you, it's like chocolate, only better.

oh, I don't have sex for my man

I have it for me

it is just a happy coincidence that he seems to like it too

They aren't all 10 minute jobs! I just mean that during the week when I want to get to sleep early we can have a quickie that gets us both off happily so we don't have the 'too tired' problem.

Mal fab post - I so don't understand so many of my friends who see sex as another thing on their chore list.

And the more you do it the more you want to!

God I'm sex starved....DH went away in january, I saw him last week but what with my period I think I have had sex twice in the last month Bloody hell that's awful! And he's not back for another 4 weeks minimum! Gaaaaaaaaahhhh

Sex is essential for emotional and physical health?

Essential.

Really?

Like food?

Water?

No, no you're probably right because when after dd I had PTSD and struggled to even think of myself as a worthwhile human being, let alone one that was capable of having sex, DH caught scurvy and many, many centuries of research have found that scurvy is caused by a lack of shagging. There are even posters in our local surgery about it.

And a bloke down the road from me didn't have sex for a whole year and his leg just fell right off. The surgeon who pritt sticked it back on said it was directly related to a lack of blowjobs.

well it is for Bluddy mine SOH..I mean a good session is all the real exercise I get apart from power walking to the train station...and if i dont get some I get quite angry due to lack of orgasm

I'm talking about normal healthy adults in normal healthy relationships but I'm sure you know that.

Well actually, there is a direct link between men over 40 who don't ejaculate regularly and a high incidence of prostate cancer.
When I'm referring to sex, I mean all forms of sex, which includes masturbation, which is pretty common to most adults.

Orgasms help with depression too, the release of hormones are hugely beneficial.

Why do you think that sex therapists advise people to just get on and have sex?

I'm not saying that people will die from lack of sex but it would be a pretty miserable existance without it.

Blimey Mal, if your sex life is sooo brilliant why are you always on mumsnet??