So would you threaten another woman for 'insulting' your DP/DH?

[SolidGoldBrass]

Not shagging him, mind. Nor coming on to him, but allegedly insulting him. Particularly if you'd never met the woman in question...
Am dealing with mad people in meltdown right now and it's all very peculiar.

No, course not. He's quite capable of dealing with any insults, let alone alleged ones

DH is a grown man - he can deal with it himself.

SGB, depends on the insult....

although I doubt any man would want his woman defending his honour/pride

It depends on whether the P was a sap

sgb, what on earth is happening with you at the moment ?

you have gone weird

stop it, now !

err, and answer to your OP, no...I would expect my DP to either stand up for himself or give the insulter the cold-shoulder they deserve ie. not react at all

no, odds are that most other people on the planet can beat me up - so i wouldn't on account that i like my face the way it is

I would not threaten another woman for anything.
What a bizarre concept.

Is someone threatening you?

what happened?

i would i guess but depends on the situation

No. I wouldn't threaten anybody unless they presented an immediate danger.

Sounds as if you've rubbed up against one of those crazy people who equate caring with fighting. What fun for you.

I used to live in a town that was swarming with women who would rush at you with a broken bottle for "looking at" their boyfriend. I bet she comes from there!

Advice? Avoid. There's no reasoning with unreason, and you can't win a fight against a psychosis.

Well I'd be dithering between the urge to defend DH (after 20 oddd years this urge is not particularly strong) and the urge to sit down and agree with the insulting POV, and maybe add "Do you know, he's started snoring now? Pretty bad, eh?" into the mix.

No. But I probably wouldn't speak to her again, if I could be reasonably sure she had insulted him.

sgb, spill, come on

SGB I would add (although you are very savvy and probably don't need to be told) that anyone who goes around threatening people is BAD NEWS and anyone connected with someone who goes around threatening people is ALSO BAD NEWS. Just avoid. Why are you getting embroiled in this sort of shite anyway?

pmsl quattrocento

oh, for the previous comment of course

Well, I am dealing with a nutter in meltdown who now appears to have got his girlfriend in on the act. The bloke has been periodically ranting about me in various places for a few years (he is an ex-friend, not an XP and I have never been entirely sure what switched him from friend to foe) - quite out of the blue I have started getting bombarded with abusive messages on Facebook and nasty emails, mostly from him, and now a couple from the alleged girlfriend, claiming that I have 'insulted' him and basically challenging me to a fight .
What this alleged 'insult' consists of is boggling me (and all the other poor sods who are being dragged into this mess) as I honestly can't think of anything I have said to or about the silly tosser online or in print in the past four years.
Am TBH a bit rattled by the whole thing, though slightly better after talking it through with another mate (who knows him) who reckons that basically it's nothing I did, he's mentally ill and the best thing to do is ignore him.

well he sounds stupid! no i wouldn't in her position why is she getting involved? whats his problem? have you asked him?

oh sorry, just read your post properly this time! agree, block him! if it goes any further inform the police, if he's mentally ill he could be capable of anything

SGB -

Step away from all of it. Please.

oh god, how very eastenders.
you need to block him and change e-mail addresses

Thing is, if I block him, I won't know what he's saying - my friend said she'd had an email from him with a 'message' she was supposed to forward to me, and she initially didn't wnat to read it to me: I said oh go on, it won't kill me and it turned out to be pretty much the same as I'd already recieved.
If I block the emails, then I'm going to fret endlessly about what they might do next. Whereas if they are ranting via email I kind of know where they are (he has just been banned from another website for posting long threatening rants about me and threatenind anyone who objected or defended me).

I would also give the police a heads up.
I know of a similar situation.

COmmunity police informed , it was clear the complainer (SGB equivalent) was sane.
Nutter was known to police.

Police had quiet word,
No more trouble

i wouldn't want to read that shit. he would be blocked. the only reason i can think of is that you are scared this will dramatically escalate

what is he likely to do next?

i mean are we talking violence?

perhaps you should involve the police at this point?

so block him or go to the police - but there is no reason why you should sit there reasing his bile