So would you threaten another woman for 'insulting' your DP/DH?

[SolidGoldBrass]

Not shagging him, mind. Nor coming on to him, but allegedly insulting him. Particularly if you'd never met the woman in question...
Am dealing with mad people in meltdown right now and it's all very peculiar.

Blimey. Sorry this is still going on, SGB. And glad the police have now been informed. Nobody needs a hate-filled screwball on their heels.

SGB - this isnt your usual 'internet arguemnt' this is full on harrassment of you, your friends and lord knows who else.

Print out the messages and pass them to your local police station, with your friends for support who have also gotten these messages.

Anyone threatening you in RL is something to be scared of, not wussy at all!

Oh FFS! It's getting worse and worse. He has posted messages on the FB wall of a friend who is also a professional contact, slagging me off - when she told him she had no idea what he was on about and to kindly sling his hook he started slagging her off as well, and his last message to me, he kindly informs he he has CC's to 'everyone in the scene'. So more and more people are getting dragged into this horrible insane shitfest.
My friend is seeing the police on Monday, taking all emails/PMs etc (it works out best that it's done via her as because of her job she knows the local police - and his threats to her are enough to get him the warning anyway...)
I'm now trying to work out who he is going to go for next (ie, all his attacks on other people are about me, telling the people to pass on abusive messages to me or give him my address and phone number - a good example of how completely nuts he is, of course, no one is going to...) and thinking: warn them? or wait for them to get in touch going @WTF is this?'
SOrry for ranting away on here but it's about the only place I feel really safe to do so (nutter will NOT be able to find me, it wouldn't occur to him).

Time to make a complaint to police, SGB, because he's escalating his campaign. He's now harassing you through your friends. You might have felt able to live with the status quo, but it's getting worse. That may mean he's getting worse, so please take no risks. Leaving him be is a risk, in my view.

Also, reading your posts it seems to me he has already got you to alter your behaviour: monitoring what he's doing or having to avoid certain sites or people, thinking about it, having to worry about whether to contact and warn friends etc, fearing being a wuss. Really please don't let that happen, because gradually you can find your life becomes more circumscribed and he's on at you everywhere you look. The problem with the ill and deranged is that they throw so much energy into these things.

The police will take it seriously. Why look over your shoulder all the time when you can get cops to do it for you?

SGM: I'll be making a statement to the police - my friend says he will get a warning to cease and desist and then if he does anything else they will nick him.
WRT libel the stuff he is saying is opinion ie playground insults and general abuse, when it's not threats, that's not libellous.

This sounds really similar to a couple my pils know who are both schizophrenic; they have these episodes which start with accusations of my pils insulting them or spreading rumours about them... because there are two of them I think they sort of feed off each other. If it's any comfort this has happened on and off over years and never progressed to anything physical, but this is not to dissuade you from taking it seriously or going to the police. So sorry to hear it's sucked in so many other people in your life; I'm sure all your friends/acquaintances will immediately recognise these people are utterly deranged.

DPC: Yes, I think this man has a form of schizophrenia (made worse by the amount of ketamine, coke and ecstasy he necks) and that he has fixated on some image of me as the fount of all harm. What has made it more worrying this time is he has persuaded/convinced/bullied his girlfriend into believing I'm The Enemy and she has challenged me to a fistfight (am ignoring her too). All the years before it has been him ranting in various places about how 'ugly' and 'vulgar' and 'thick' I am, in the past week it has escalated to frightening levels. The police HAVE been informed, I'm not moderating my behaviour (just feeling sick and wobbly every time I go onto Facebook and see if i have messages), I know that the fuckwit doesn't know where I live so is not going to be in the bushes with an ax...

Well, though I have managed to prove to myself, to my own satisfaction, that I didn't do the thing that allegedly set him off (slating him on youtube - i finally managed to track down my own youtube login, which i had forgotten, and it shows that i haven't used it for over a year) he is getting worse - to the extent where I am beginning to think about libel action. And I always thought suing for libel was a bit pathetic, but he has now made one definitely libellous statement.
Oh how I hate this mess.

SGB do what you have to do for your own sanity..he sounds like a first class twat ..I know its not the done thing but hell!

oh, how HORRIBLE that he's reduced you to doubting yourself, SGB!!!

Libel, possibly? Harrassment, definitely! And how about suing him for mental anguish (as evidenced here?)

Do NOT put up with it any more

You don't have to sue him for libel, SGB.

You can include all his internet statements in your harassment complaint, either to police, or in a civil harassment claim, and get an injunction to stop him doing any more.

SGB - sure you know about this already but "Protection From Harrassment Act" here

Am feeling better today (despite nightmares, and then thinking this morning when I couldnt' find the rest of the Sunday paper - 'Has Stalky the Stalker broken in and nicked it or am I just going mental myself?).
P is seeing police this afternoon, I have also spoken to another friend who is an event organiser, as stalker mentioned a specific venue and event he was going to come and get me at - she says she will bar him from the event though hopefully he will either have backed off or be cooling his heels in a cell by then anyway...
THanks so much to everyone for nice messages.

Hopefully the police will be enough to put a stop to it

Update: though Stalky the Stalker has been quiet since Sunday, my friend has had a massive tooth abcess and therefore not been able to make a statement yet... so am still kind of waiting. She is sure the police will be happy to go and give him an official warning, so I hope that will do the trick...

Sorry you're having to deal with this shit SGB. If I were you I'd send a quick message to people you know he's contacted, saying he's unhinged, and you've reported him to the police. I think the best thing is not to respond to him at all, that will only fuel him.

What a pair of total dicks they sound.