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Anyone else not bought their other half a valentines card/present?

136 replies

Disenchanted3 · 12/02/2010 19:47

Things like that don't bother him, I might do something come the day but I'm not going out of my way to go to the shops and spend money on something for him.

Have I a cold and withered heart?

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Batteryhuman · 12/02/2010 19:49

Nah! I might buy him a packet of lovehearts from the papershop tomorrow though.....

MyHouseIsASquashAndASqueeze · 12/02/2010 19:49

I haven't and absolutely ignore the day as a rule. It's great to celebrate your love for someone but to me it should be spontaneous, the 14th of February means nothing to me. I'd rather surprise him another time and do something nice IYKWIM.

MarionCole · 12/02/2010 19:49

Never have and never will.

Conversation earlier:
DH: "Have you bought me a card?"
Me: "No, have you?"
DH: "No. Just checking."

BunnyLebowski · 12/02/2010 19:50

We don't do anything.

The first year we were together we went out for dinner and did the whole production line of over-priced crap food with all the other drone couples.

I don't need to be told by a card manufacturer when to tell DP I love him or do something special for him. I do both a lot anyway

ProfYaffle · 12/02/2010 19:51

We don't bother with cards etc, have bought a bottle of Prosecco though, any excuse etc

nickytwotimes · 12/02/2010 19:51

I haven't.

We don't really 'do' Valentine's Day. Tis a con.

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Disenchanted3 · 12/02/2010 19:51

I will however expect a lie in Sunday

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skidoodle · 12/02/2010 19:52

I don't do Valentine's Day. The only February occasion I will celebrate is Pancake Day.

Pancakes are better than love.

BunnyLebowski · 12/02/2010 19:54

Never a truer word spoken skidoodle

Blackduck · 12/02/2010 19:55

Nope, never have, never will.....will, however, expect my usual anonymous one from......my dad (been sending me one since I was about 5!)

CurlyhairedAssassin · 12/02/2010 19:56

We used to, purely because it happens to be the day we first got together - and because that's when we first got together, DH also proposed exactly a year later too. But it's just got so crap - all the tackiness, not to mention the inflated expense of meals out etc

I know DH has only got me Valentines cards because I get him them, but this year I just said "Let's not bother with cards this year, eh?" And he was more than happy to oblige. It's just pointless really once you get married as then you have your wedding anniversary to celebrate as your romantic loveydovey experience. and that IS unique to you. We're 10 years married this year and going away for the weekend for our anniversary so it seems stupid to celebrate Valentines day too.

TigerDrivesAgain · 12/02/2010 19:57

No, not at all. I once (in several hundred years or so it feels, at least 20) got a manky rose in a plastic holder which had obviously been pinched from a restaurant.

We don't do wedding annos either, mainly becos we both have rubbish memories. I wouldn't appreciate a valentine unless it came from DS which is compulsory of course.

TrippleBerryFairy · 12/02/2010 19:59

No cards/ presents here either. Have more important things to spend our money on (e.g. neverending DIY at home...).
Will possibly see a movie and have a drink in town as ILs suggested having DS for couple of hours.
A part of me just wants to stay at home and sleep while DS is being entertained by ILs...

CurlyhairedAssassin · 12/02/2010 20:00

And I remember one year on Feb 14th when we weren't speaking really for the few days prior to the 14th and on the day the atmosphere was still horrible. We got each other cards because we felt we had to, but there was no meaning there - we kind of muttered under our breath: "I got you a card - it's on the mantelpiece." "Thanks. I got you one too - here."

And then we never spoke again for another couple of days. It was really romantic, that year!!!

cyteen · 12/02/2010 20:02

Aw Blackduck that is sweet

We don't bother as a rule, although if either of us is moved to do something that is always acceptable. Last year I drew him a card on the spur of the moment, which he loved; a few years previously he drew me a fantastic picture of us both that now has pride of place on the bedroom mantlepiece.

Rosa · 12/02/2010 20:03

Nope....

chicaguapa · 12/02/2010 20:09

We haven't this year - by mutual agreement.

Cicatrice · 12/02/2010 20:26

No. Seems silly to do it when you are long married.

But I am doing Shrove Tuesday with a vengeance.

OrmRenewed · 12/02/2010 20:32

No.

But I will have to go out tomorrow to find something . DH always does Valentine's Day.

humptynumpty · 12/02/2010 20:32

did it the first year, not really into all that stuff now. TBH would rather actually do something together/spend some quality time together than just buy a card and some tacky shite!
Tis a mutual agreement BTW.
But our kids made some for us which are really sweet!

EdgarAllenSnow · 12/02/2010 20:38

we do valentines day normally - i normally hand make the card.

bit afflicted by CBA this year though..

i agree that Pancakes are indeed very good, but as i cooked Toad-in-the-hole and pancakes for dh last valentines, he probably thinks love is better.....

sayithowitis · 12/02/2010 23:51

Don't do presents/flowers etc but we always do cards. However long you have been married, it is still sometimes easy for life to get in the way and to forget to take a moment to tell each other how you feel. We have been together over 35 years now, married nearly 30, and whether it be handmade, an expensive card, a cheap card, just a handwritten note, we have always given each other some sort of love note on Valentine's Day. But we also give cards on other, personal dates during the year as well as the other usual occasions. And sometimes, one or other of us will give the other one an 'I love You' card for no other reason than to just say it.

skymoo · 13/02/2010 01:54

what is cba?

ArcticFox · 13/02/2010 06:53

CBA= Cannot be arsed

I'm not doing it as we live in Hk and Valentines not a big thing here. Also, coincidentally, tomorrow is Chinese New Year eve so there will be a massive firework display/ dragon dancing etc. so we'll just go to that.

(hmm, perhaps should tell DH that I actually arranged the fireworks as a sign of my love for him)