Anyone compare themselves unfavourably with their exes new gf?

[poshsinglemum]

I know it is unhealthy, but some of my exes have gone on to find fabulous new girlfriends and it makes me feel shit about myself.

I always think ''I bet he is glad to be rid of me now he has got thin, rich, successful fabulous, younger girl on his arm.''

I know IABU and I have self-esteem issues.

I'm doing the same thing

I think it's human nature to do this. My exes (and there are many of them!) often go on to marry the girl/woman they dated after me. It's like I prepare them or perhaps I'm so ghastly that anyone else is bliss in comparison.

My ex is marrying his new GF who looks a bit too much like me for comfort. But she is much better scrubbed up, a lot better dressed and also a lot more controlling than me. The kids say they are always arguing!! Personally he is welcome to her and she to him, they make a lovely couple

Belle - I have the same problem. I think I should start a business doing it.

My exes are all so scary that when I finally manage to escape, I never keep in touch long enough to find out what they do next.

Is that better or worse?

to others you are probably fabulous / thin / successful.

we are our harshest critics.

Lou let's collaborate on a book - we could make a fortune! "How To Spot When He's Ready For Marriage". Quite short: have Lou or Belle just dumped him/been dumped? Yep, you'll have him up the aisle within a year!

No, I've never done this.

Having said that I do think I am probably quite difficult to deal with so someone more 'normal' is probably a bit of a relief

Also XP married the one after me (actually there was an overlap but we'll let that lie for now).

My reaction is - thank god it's her and not me!

I was married to my ex for 10 years. Not looking for a new one though!

No, not a book. A consultancy. Lend Us Your Committment Phobe Boyfriend for a year and We'll Break him Down for Marriage
bit labour intensive, would have be to be top of the range clients only

Im keen on a consultancy and then a few years later write a book to cash in even more. The thing is I never try to change them (well not in a scary Jeremy Kyle way, just hints about clothes) it just happens.
The worst thing is is that I stay friends with them and get invited to the weddings!!

My last ex before DH would never commit to me and was always on at me to lose weight. Shockingly he married a thinner, meeker version of me. Same hair (curly) although she was a brunette and a few months after they got together her hair was blonde like mine and her eyes blue like mine. Was a bit creepy actually. She is now pregnant with a boy and if they call it the name he and I once said we would call our first child I will be majorly creeped out!

Most of my other ex's have ended up friends although I always noticed they ended up with someone thinner and prettier after me..... or maybe you are right in saying that we are our own worst critic ;)

My ex's girlfriend looks a bit like me.

She is younger though.

Don't worry, my ex is in his early 30s like me and has been seeing a lady who is almost 50 for some time now. Still makes me feel a bit funny when I think about it.