Would you allow your ex in your home if you weren't there?

[chippychippybangbang]

Regular but namechanged as I don't want my background to influence opinion on this one if anyone knows it.

Brief background - small dc's, split up with H last year and he moved to stay with family in the area.

I have to go away for a couple of days next month and he'll be looking after the dc's. I still live in our marital home where the dc's have most of their toys. H has requested that he move in here while I'm away as it will be much easier for him.

He still pays for the house as we haven't divided finances yet, this house is slightly nearer to schools so it would be more convenient but I'm unsure about allowing him in the house unsupervised while I'm not here. Based on above, what do you think??

Hmm, well, the snapping point was quite funny actually. It involved me throwing a bag of roast chickens (!) in his general direction as he sprinted for the car and roared off up the road as if the demons of Hell were after him. I don't think he would have got the point if we'd had a rational discussion. He doesn't do rational.

Ooh Annie, our neighbours would have LOVED to see that kind of drama in our quiet little road. I often feel we're disappointing them by being a bit too civilised in public..

We have rational interspersed with barking mad and highly unreasonable. I never know quite what I'll get so I prepare for anything. God knows how I lived with it for so long and remained fairly sane.