In 2009 I....

[crystalfishes]

... left my pompous, selfish, arrogant, power crazed, socially inept director-of-a-stockbroking firm husband and met my gorgeous, sensitive, caring, thoughtful, not to mention sexy and above all NORMAL snowboarding hunk of a boyfriend with a normal job who I love with all my heart - I have finally met my soulmate and I am blissfully happy. No reason for thread, other than to show off hehe

Show off! Good on you.

In 2009 I decided my self worth would no longer be gauged by my relationships or the men I chose to have relationships with.

100 percent single and loving it!

Aboslutely!!! It takes guts to realise that you CAN be happy on your own and to wing it and if you're really lucky (like I was) you might just fall on your feet

crystalfishes, what a turnaround!

Wondering, how did you meet the boyfriend because the XH sounds exactly like the one I've recently left, and I'm hoping the soulmate is on his way (slowly, not quite ready for him yet!)

In 2009 I started dating the most loving, affectionate, forgiving, hot, passionate Kiwi in New Zealand, we moved from the North to the South Island, we bought a house together and I'm still living in a dream I hope I'll never wake up from. Definitely one of my most eventful and happy years in my life.

Oh, and I got a great new job aligned for 2010!

Roll on this thread...

In 2009 I stopped being controlled by my emotionally, financially and verbally abusive h and I seperated myself from him.

On Monday I went to court and secured a maintenance order in his absence to add to the Safety Order I gained last October.

Ha ha ha!! Nobody will ever tell me what to do or how I must live my life again. Today I read his e mail telling me that he was abusive to me only because it was a reaction to my 'abusive' behaviour towards him, ie, I "ignored him". I deleted the e mail. Because I could. And what's more, there will be no punishment for doing this because I am no longer married to him!

Sorry; bit too much gin and very late. But feck it, I don't care, I can do what I want now and no disapproving lectures from 'he who must be obeyed'.

In 2009 I got left pg with dc4 (38 weeks). Dd2 is now a week old

no twat is worth my tears; especially one who lies, cheats and leaves a heavily pregnant woman one Tuesday evening out of the blue.

I'm at rock bottom now - but not for long. I'm gonna show that bastard.

Crystalfishes, lovely just lovely, well done.
therealme.. well done too.
and Scorps hope you do show him! tosser

scorps, congratulations on the birth of little DD2. I'm sorry things didn't work out the way you hoped with your H but I hope 2010 is happy, healthy, healing year for you and your 4

sorry for hijack

way to go Scorps. Onwards and upwards.. All the best to you.

Also sorry for the hijack, but OP seems ok to me

Scorps, been almost exactly where you describe. My 4 and I are flying now as you and yours will be too, have no doubt (see above ).

...Literally flying, you're superhuman dontcha know! . Congrats on your recent birth x

i left an arse of a man.. discovered an ability to not end up with another abusive/messed up twat and tell said new twats to bugger off.

also finally started my new career path i've wanted to do for years.

rebuilt friendship with old friends not allowed to see by useless arse i left.

looking for a nice twat... but no hurry.. he'll get here when he's ready.

After 4 years of loving being single... I went to a party in the summer and met my boyfriend who has made me feel like no one else has ever made me feel - I am comfortable in my own skin with him because he makes me feel so special and worthy and that feeling is a feeling i have never ever felt before and it is a priceless feeling to have...

I have been so very low in the past but those lows were def worth this high