DH told me last night that he won't have another child, no negociation...

[BooHooo]

DH and I are happily married. He has children from a previous marriage whom he has, quite rightly, supported in every way and had constant contact with. They are adults now.

We have one DD age 3 and she is very loved and, well pampered really she has a great life. The thing is I am only now becoming really broody for another and last night I told him about it. He said his heart would but realistically at 55 he just can't take on the responsibility. He feels he would have to work longer, harder and wouldn't enjoy his later years in peace. He feels he has had enough children and it would be unfair at his age to take the plunge like he would have 20 yrs ago, So it is a resounding no really.

What he says makes sense but it hurts that I will never have another child. DD has been difficult healthwise with some hospitalisations and to be honest it is only now that she is healthy and eating well and getting older and more robust that I feel confident about dedicating my time to another newborn and it is too late I am 32 btw.

I don't want to pressure him into it. I suppose I am just sounding off really.

[BooHooo]

thank you SG and BTR your posts are really thought-provoking and kind. I will have that conversation with DH, without laying any blame. I think it would really help me

and yes my only wish this year is that DD gets healthy and strong, I do everything in my power to make that a reality. I worked hard to get her she is v precious to me.

[jabberwocky]

I wonder if your dd's health issues are part of his reasoning? Dh was mostly against a second one b/c of my PN PTSD and the fact that ds1 was such a difficult baby. His age didn't really factor in so much, although he does have a chronic health condition that worsens with age. But even with all of that, we went ahead with it.

Anyway, I just wonder if he might be more amenable to the idea if you waited until your dd's health is more stable to discuss it.