Did your relationship with DH change when your dad died?

[Chuffinnora]

I would not say DH and I ever had a perfect relationship but we are now at the point where I've given up caring about him. I can no longer tolerate his fault and I wondered was it because my dad dies in July and now I feel there is no one to care for me?
Did I put up with DH because my dad was there to compensate? Anyone else notice a change when they lost their dad?

A personal recommendation from someone you respect is the best way to go, imo.

From what (little) I know, excellent couples counsellors are rare. But if you find a good local individual counsellor (or know anyone in the field) you may be able to get a recommendation to find someone ...