Anyone tried or curious about male escorts?

[poshsinglemum]

I am single mum and I havn't been shagged or even taken out for over two years.
I would love to go for a nice dinner and possibly more but I am simply not ready for a relationship.
I am beginning to think that it would be lovely to hire a georgeous male escort for my birthday!
Is it a bad idea?

[poshsinglemum]

I think it is when women are prostitutes. I'm not sure about men though. yes- I do have huge double standards!
What about diary of a call girl that came out recently. The woman outed herself and turned out to be a scientist. she gives no hint that she felt exploited.
I guess it depends on if the person is a prostitute by choice or circumstance really.

Personally I find on enight stands and fuck buddies are extremely exploitative and make me feel like shit. I should know- I have had a fair few. I am not proud but that's the way it is.

[poshsinglemum]

What I mean is- I don't agree with women prostitutes unless they are 'high class'. Ironic I guess but I precieve excorts to be high-class prostitutes I guess.

[poshsinglemum]

Mabe I would be better off going to a hook up site? But I bet the men on those aren't buff or good bullshitters conversationalists!

[Grandhighpoohba]

You asked, poshsinglemum, whether it was a bad idea. So I'm just saying that IMO, using a prostitute is always a bad idea, because it is plain wrong. And I find it interesting that because you are female, there appears to be a massive double standard, where people are entertaining the idea. Read back some of your comments, and put them in the mouth of a bloke who has been single for a couple of years - There should be a shop where you can go look? That would be a brothel then. I want to pay for sex because I don't want to go through the effort of finding someone who actually wants to?

[poshsinglemum]

I can see where you are coming from.

Is prostitution frowned upon between groups of men though?

In groups of men it is practically applauded and encouraged - no? Look at the stag do.

[poshsinglemum]

Mabe I would get attached to my escort. It is quite likely.

I am just curious ladies. And yes- desperate too!

[poshsinglemum]

Most of the time I can handle celibacy but when I'm ovulating I get really horny.

Celibacy is character building! hmmmmmm

[Malificence]

Don't scoff but you can get "fucking machines", or spacehoppers with attached dildos, somebody must buy them, or is it the human contact that you need rather than the sexual release?

I imagine that most men feel the same way about prostitution as most women, i.e. that it's seedy and a bit pathetic, plus there's the exploitation factor.

Why not treat yourself to some good sex toys?

[wetsuitone]

The sex toy angle. Women definitely are blessed in that area!

Ever notice how much of a sex shop is dedicated to a woman's pleasure as compared to men?

When I go in them, I actually get angry that it's so lopsided. 85% or more of the shop is dedicated to her pleasure (or so it seems), while men have a rack or two of toys.

Thank god we have other outlets because the sex toy market certainly lets us down....

[poshsinglemum]

Malificence! That's a bit harsh. And yes- I do have sex toys. IMO sex is natural and so is wanting to have sex. Nowt to be ashamed of desperate or not. I'm not saying that an escort is the best way to go about it but as I'm not married or smug I am free to experiment a bit -no?

[poshsinglemum]

I'm not suggesting that married people are smug btw.

I am trying to decide if escorts is exploitation. We all exploit ourselves somewhat when we have sex. we are making ourselves vulnerable.

I think I'm just wondering if I would FEEL different about a 'business' transaction. Would I be able to maintain an emotional distance if I knew the guy was a 'pro'?

[poshsinglemum]

In the long term I want a long-term relationship but not right now. I am also very cynical about love atm. I don't like been cynical but I am.
I would love to be married but I am very cynical. I know it's not a good place to be and I am starting CBT tomorrow.

[Grandhighpoohba]

Not convinced that use of prostitution on a Stag night is "applauded." Most women would call off the wedding if they found out. And anyway the arguement that says that because some men in our society behave badly, women should be allowed to do it too is flawed. No one should be able to behave badly and expect it to be socially acceptable.

Its probably best if you don't get me started on the diary of a callgirl... One prostitute who claims to have enjoyed her work does not make things ok.

Are you going to interview your "escort" first to make sure they are not being exploited?

[Malificence]

wetsuitone - you've never heard of lovehoney then - the amount of male sex toys is mind boggling! They rave over the tenga flip hole and fleshlights on there, the world's your lobster on there mate.

PSMum - I wasn't trying to be harsh, I was trying to ascertain whether it's physical contact you are needing, rather than just sexual pleasure - it might feel like sexual frustration when all you really need is a good cuddle. I'm sure you're perfectly capable of fulfilling your own sexual needs, but it's physical contact that is more elusive, would you get that reassurance with a stranger you've paid to be there?

[ILaunchedTigersSausageRocket]

The thing with the shagging sites is that they prob don't want to do the dinner date first, they just want to meet and fuck. Great but the OP also wants a 'date' but without the emotional hang ups. Whether that makes a prostitute the right answer or not, I dunno.

Dittany mentions the disease factor in sex workers and yes, there is a point there but equally if you pick up a man in a bar and have a ons with him then he is hardly likely to be a virgin, in fact he is probably doing exactly what he does week in, week out, going to bars with his mates, picking up girls and taking them home. His disease potential is likely to be pretty high too, as a promiscuous person. At least a sex worker working for a reputable agency is more likely (in my mind anyway) to have regular sexual health checks etc than your average wine bar wide boy.

[Thingiebob]

Er, consenting adults and all that. Go for it.

I can't believe that you are being advised to go and pick up a stranger in a bar as opposed to a business transaction from a reputable agency who vet and test all their escorts, are experienced and will be relatively nice-looking to boot!

[ILaunchedTigersSausageRocket]

chances are he'll be better in the sack too than the wine bar boy who will probably have brewers droop and couldn't find your erongenous zones with a f*cking TomTom and an OS map.

[ILaunchedTigersSausageRocket]

lol, 'erogenous'!!!

[EcoMouse]

PSM, I think it's a well considered option myself!

I am in a similar position to that which you describe and although I don't think I'd instigate anything with a male escort, I do think it would be the most viable way for me to attain sex, if I couldn't handle celibacy.

As it is, I've chosen celibacy over one nighters (haven't done that since my teens and wouldn't now because I don't like to feel the usee or user) or shag buddies (I think I'd become to emotionally involved).

I'm not ready for a relationship or anything remotely emotional yet so a business transaction would seem the safest option. Everyone knows the score and it would reinforce the boundaries for me, which currently would be a good thing!

[fanjolina]

Go for it