men and bottom talk - (sorry know it's not friday)

[sexmad]

I have a question.

Beau, has a thing for bottoms - fine with me as pre him i'd not really tried it but i'm actually really liking it now. thing is though he today helped me to put all 4 of my fingers in there. now the question is do I need to be worried re his sexual orientation? he says no he just likes the sensation, is very anti with things like another man being present in the room (have discussed various other things and are both very sexually open).

But he really likes rimming. (again ok with me) and the finger thing (same again ok with me) but last night as well he said and it's a cliche, 'that's good, pull my cheeks apart. '

I promise i'm not a troll. but do name change to this for sexual threads as SIL is also on the boards - if you recognise me please don't out me.

am slightly concerned that he maybe gay/bi. He seems to prefer forplay to full sex, however also does enjoy full sex as well.
we're both very very big on Oral.

Odd or not?

I think it depends on you really - if you're comfortable with it then fair enough, no-one's geting hurt. I'm not against that kind of thing but it wouldn't float my personal boat because it sounds like he likes something large in there, and I would worry where it would lead to. Bigger and bigger buttplugs? pegging? Sounds offputting to be honest. Does he focus a lot on your pleasure, too?

yes very much so as well. I have used the anal beads on him, which he asked to be taken out as they were making him a bit sore. have also suggested a strap on which he seemed to be into. but am slightly concerned that a man could like the sensation but not be gay iycwim - is that possible?

say's he's def not gay or bi, but then again michael barrymore was married!!

You sound like you're both enjoying it so I don't see a problem, to be honest.

Yeah it's definitely possible to be into bum-related things and not be gay. Don't they have a g spot up there or something? If it doesn't bother you, don't worry about it. If he was gay, he'd be gay.

yeah it's the gland, he loves it when I manage to hit that spot, i'm really into that as well - tbh it doesn't worry me if he's gay he's gay i'd be a friend but obviously nothing more.

apparently from reading online however you can do 'pegging' and not be gay - the similarity was with oral sex - ie it's a 'lesbian' act and women like it (or at least I do lol)

lol shiney
it is a bit early. one really needs a stiff drink for this kind of thread

A physical sensation is just a physical sensation - it isn't gay or straight.

What makes a man gay is fancying men, not enjoying anal sex. Men aren't gay cos they like bums, they're gay cos they like men.

Some gay men like anal, some don't. Just like some straight men do, or don't.

LMAO what thread?
ahem yes did - was up n at it before 9am this am, and before 1am last night. oh to be childless again soon.

lmao at Korma

"Men aren't gay cos they like bums, they're gay cos they like men." - exactly!

Dont think you need to worry - sounds like you are both really enjoying eachother.

Is he a heating engineer? Can you account for the hour before 1am? Did he come to bed very excited after switching his phone off?

korma, sounds like the OP's OH likes to be buggered backwards

OP, if it floats your boat, then go for it. Four fingers is alot though

Now I like beau as a term. It's wonderfully antiquated. Conjurs up images of picnics and lashings of ginger beer.

Then you ruin it with the bum loving.

MNHQ, cmon with the Friday Night topic so we can lock this lot in a corner of MN together until they spontaneously combust from the filth.

Reminds me of that old joke...what's the difference between Sexmad's beau and a kitkat?

You can only get 4 fingers in a kitkat!

I was worried that 4 fingers was a lot yes (esp as one kept coming out - only have little hands lol)

erm hour before 1am - yes I was with him, we were together from yesterday afternoon. and no not an engineer.

main thing is I don't think he's gay any mroe (yay go us! )

sorry for spoiling it if it's any consolation he's very old fashioned in his outlook on life. (aside from the sex)

korma - now those sorts of fingers I don't mind dunking in my tea!

LMFAO rinder!