Or is it just DP?
I love DP very much and he is a good person BUT he does nothing for himself. I do housework from dawn til dusk yet the house is still a tip. How can anyone create mess at such a speed?
We lived with his parents, who are very soft (but the loveliest people in the world!)until about 6 months ago then got our own little house.
He does not do any laundry, any cooking, hoovering, or ANYTHING without me asking for 3 days first. He just doesn't seem to grasp that it's HIS clothes, HIM who will be hungry if he doesn't cook. Why is it my responsability, it's his house too!
I do all the laundry, wash it, dry it, iron it, then leave it in a pile on our bed and ask him to put it away. When I go up to bed, it's still there! EVERY DAY! It usually gets chucked on the floor and I get moaned at because he can't find his uniform.
He asked me to write down the things I wanted him to, which I did, it's up on the fridge with ONE chore to do each day. He has never even looked at it.
I feel like I am drowning. I work 4 days a week as a childminder. I am doing an OU course and I have one DS. I just can't cope with everything at once and I'm falling behind on my course work, the house is a mess and I spend no time with DS.
I feel like I have a teenage son instead of a partner.
I have talked to him about it so many times. I've tried asking nicely, I've argued with him. I've asked him why he doesn't do anything about it. Doesn't he care that this is how I feel? If I try to talk to him about it he looks sorry for himself or offended that I've 'had a go'. He'll then do one small chore to make himself feel better and we're back to square one again. He makes jokes about me being a nag or blames my temper on PMT.
I am tempted to fuck of for a month and let him learn how to look after himself and DS the hard way but I've nowhere to go and it would be DS who suffers.
The thing is I'm trapped because he KNOWS I won't go. He KNOWS I won't stopped doing evrything because of DS so he has no reason to change does he?