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I once had a relationship. his willy made a baby

59 replies

LovinSealcracker · 04/12/2009 16:14

I am bloody freezing cold. I have had three glasses of wine. I have no idea what to make ds for his tea. I bought a new britax car seat yesterday and it cost 130 quid. (last one was a tenner from NCT sale and was crap)

I want to go out but I have nobody who can babysit.

Want an indian takeaway but cant afford one. No way.

Want to have a long hot bath but have to get ds up.

Ex bastard h ...well, that's enough of him

I dont cope well on my own and yet actually cope bloody amazingly. H ran away a year and a half ago.
The xmas tree is up. ds (2yrs) has a thomas tank engine chocolate-giving advent calendar. Yes, bad sweet message but he is in heaven.

I went to asda today and bought Roses chocs for 2 pounds as presents. Bad. Not like the old days.....ha ha

I hate saying 'I' as nothing has been about 'I' since ex bastard h farked off and I still feel selfish bitch for thinking about myself.

I have made a pork curry for my tea.

But I have the marathon to climb until then. Washing, hanging out, get ds up, play, tea (???pasta??,) more play,
chuggington,
bob builder,
waybuloo,
Mister Maker,
'Iam a Shape...I AM A TRI-ANG-GUL'

I am 45 ffs.

I dont have shitty ex-p giving me the weebles but I am perfectly able to do that to myself.

No help. No support. No Family. No cashews. No bleedin idea really.

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OrmIrian · 04/12/2009 16:18

Well practise saying 'I' and 'me' then! Sounds like a little more selfishness would do you good. I think that your DS is going to have a great christmas. Hope you can manage a good one too. Where are you? Can any MNers help you out?

So sorry you are feeling like this. Ex-P is doubtless a total arse

BitOfFun · 04/12/2009 16:20

Are you getting any help from the GP? You sound like you have a drink problem tbh.

SolosScrapingUpForXmas · 04/12/2009 16:20

I could've written your post, though I do have my Mum ~ she doesn't offer to babysit though and I can't afford to go out even if I had the opportunity and even if I did, I have nothing to wear.
I have no advice as my 'relationship' choices have never been good ones it seems, but please know that you aren't alone.

GypsyMoth · 04/12/2009 16:26

i'm on my own (mostly,i have a live out...50 miles away....biyfriend)with my 5dc. what family i have left are all a couple of hours away. its rubbish,i know!!

where in the country are you??

Original poster
LovinSealcracker · 04/12/2009 16:27

BoF I have a MAJOR drink problem.

ie Not enough in the house.

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LovinSealcracker · 04/12/2009 16:29

Also, I am sleeping with my gp so yes mucho help on that front.

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GypsyMoth · 04/12/2009 16:29

lol....a few glasses of wine don't equal a drink problem do they?? even tho its early??

LynetteScavo · 04/12/2009 16:30

Tommorow is anohter day.

Don't drink any more wine.

And why are the NCT selling second hand car seats?

timelordvictorious · 04/12/2009 16:30

Put another pair of socks on - warm feet will warm the rest of you up a bit.

Your home made curry is far more frugal, and doubtless healthier than a takeaway.

MN are always here.

Past four means you're on the downward stretch with a two year old - bedtime will be here before you know it.

But (and I promise I am not being judgy, and I am sorry if it sounds that way) if you are on your own with a two year old to feed, bath and put to bed, please don't have more wine until he is asleep.

LynetteScavo · 04/12/2009 16:32

Is he still down for his afternoon nap?

nickelbabe · 04/12/2009 16:33

(lovinsealcracker, GP in this case means grandparents, not doctor...)

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LovinSealcracker · 04/12/2009 16:33

I am bloody freezing cold. I have had three glasses of wine. I have no idea what to make ds for his tea. I bought a new britax car seat yesterday and it cost 130 quid. (last one was a tenner from NCT sale and was crap)

I want to go out but I have nobody who can babysit.

Want an indian takeaway but cant afford one. No way.

Want to have a long hot bath but have to get ds up.

Ex bastard h ...well, that's enough of him

I dont cope well on my own and yet actually cope bloody amazingly. H ran away a year and a half ago.
The xmas tree is up. ds (2yrs) has a thomas tank engine chocolate-giving advent calendar. Yes, bad sweet message but he is in heaven.

I went to asda today and bought Roses chocs for 2 pounds as presents. Bad. Not like the old days.....ha ha

I hate saying 'I' as nothing has been about 'I' since ex bastard h farked off and I still feel selfish bitch for thinking about myself.

I have made a pork curry for my tea.

But I have the marathon to climb until then. Washing, hanging out, get ds up, play, tea (???pasta??,) more play,
chuggington,
bob builder,
waybuloo,
Mister Maker,
'I am a Shape...I AM A TRI-ANG-GUL'

I am 45 ffs.

I don't have shitty ex-p giving me the weebles but I am perfectly able to do that to myself.

No help. No support. No Family. No cashews. No bleedin idea really.

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BitOfFun · 04/12/2009 16:34

They don't, ILove TIFFANY, but being pissed at four in the afternoon has gotta be a warning sign.

iva555 · 04/12/2009 16:35

feel the same, no help, no family, no nothing. Want to go back home lol

expatinscotland · 04/12/2009 16:35

I got an idea! Put down the wine.

If this is you after only 3 glasses and it's only 4.30PM, I'd hate to see what you're like after more.

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LovinSealcracker · 04/12/2009 16:36

typical scot!

Your round expats

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GypsyMoth · 04/12/2009 16:37

where is 'home' iva?? my mum died and dad moved to a new place....nobody left in village i grew up in....i often wonder where 'home' is!!

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LovinSealcracker · 04/12/2009 16:39

Sense of humour bypass thread.

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fuckadoodledoo · 04/12/2009 16:41

hey hey... I've had a bottle of beer. strong one !! Chin chin.. all this will pass, and it really will.... i hope . no no IT WILL ...

Tell us more about GP [nosey and jealous emoticon].

fuckadoodledoo · 04/12/2009 16:42

oh and beans on toast... for the ds

poshsinglemum · 04/12/2009 16:47

I know it is bloody hard work and annoying at times. I regularly sink into the pit.

Try to climb out again-honestly. I'm on my first glass of wine. I only but the tiny bottles as I know that given the chance I'd drink the whole damn lot! One glass takes teh edge of it.

Try to think positive. Your ex husband is clearly a tit-no? Well you don't have to put up with him anymore-hurrah!

I'll drink to that!

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LovinSealcracker · 04/12/2009 16:48

Goodness me people, ds sleeps for three hours in the afternoon. What am I supposed to do of a friday?

I have done the washing, hoovering, posted presents, cleaned all my cloths ready for next week, made myself supper, tidied the sitting room, soaked all his bibs, fed the dogs, swept the garden, been to the tip, written a small inconsequential novel..

I reckon three glasses of wine, when there is no one to relieve me of the sheer bloody workload, is a miracle.

I drank Jean Jacques burnel under the table once. I am not proud of that

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GypsyMoth · 04/12/2009 16:51

3 glasses wouldn't do too much to me either...be a bit happier but not blind drunk.....and the friday workers in the local bars have been there since before the school run,so don't see why its acceptable for them,but not a stay at home mum?!!

Hullygully · 04/12/2009 16:53

You sound like my kind of gel.

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LovinSealcracker · 04/12/2009 16:53

GP is lovely.

But. None of your business

(Pass the prawn crackers and I might be persuaded to LIE some more

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