Background: Been married six years, we get along fine, have a laugh sometimes, still have sex from time to time (quite nice as well) and have two young DC's.
The only trouble is that there is no intimacy between us. Not because we once had it and complacency has set in or anything - we never actually had it in the first place. DH is totally incapable of being intimate - the best he can do is call me by a silly nicname and give me a quick cuddle. No explaining or advising helps at all - he is simply incapable of being at all tender or connecting on a deeper level.
I am an analytical, perceptive and intuitive person and I'm beginning to get worn down by this after all these years of missing out of a good 'heart to heart' with a partner (XP's were all capable of it!). Being this perceptive, intuitive person I did realise this was the case at the start, but also being a very positive person, I thought - wait for it - I could CHANGE him! (I forgot to say I'm obviously a foolish person too!)
Is this it? Do I have to focus on other aspects of our relationship to make up for this lack of intimacy or will it eventually kill it? I feel vulnerable to the fact I might fall for someone else who will fill this void and it worries me.