Hello don't post very often but would appreciate a view. Over last 2 yrs dh and I have have had relationship problems. We split up for a few months and 6mths later "something" was going on between him and a colleage ( Ifound text messages but it has been forever denied). Anyway consequently I am slowly rebuilding my trust.
Anyway bil is on 2nd marriage and lives 50 odd miles away and arranged a night out with his friends and invited dh .( we rarely see this couple) I felt uncomfortable but realized to take our relationship forward I need to trust him and was fine, but now arrangements have changed and bil and wife to be are having joint stag/hen bbq at their house which will basically be a massive party and I feel this is different to a lads night out . We had crap day arguing about it yesterday which ended in him sayng he just wouldn't go and obviously making me feel bad about it . Am I being unreasonable ?