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my mother...again

81 replies

Chyla · 15/06/2005 22:14

She and her internet 'boyfriend' chat from 8pm to 10:30 everynight which is what my mother and I agreed, then I go on at 10:30 for an hour or so but tonight as like a few nights ago, he is able to stay on longer, so she says she is staying on longer which will prob be past when I go to bed. This is so unfair to change the arrangements and she thinks it is fair.

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aaliyahsmum · 15/06/2005 23:26

have you thought about a refuge or something just to get you out of the way i think you need professional help

soapbox · 15/06/2005 23:27

SJ - that is absolutely not true. On the contrary 10 tablets are highly likely to kill you.

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Chyla · 15/06/2005 23:27

I told her I taken them and she said 'well your nearly on your way to getting what you want then aren't you'

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HappyHuggy · 15/06/2005 23:27

where about are you chyla???

Flossam · 15/06/2005 23:28

Agree SS. Sorry but you do need to get yourself to hospital. I don't think you want to die. I think you want to be out of the situation that you are in. Could you not get council accomodation? If your mother chucks you out you could I think. Also benefits. Not a long term lifestyle choice hopefully but something you could do to improve your life as you are finding it so hard in the short term. Paracetamol is a nasty drug to o/d on. You could go into a coma and wake up having had major surgery to replace your liver. On a lifetimes worth of anti-rejection drugs and also trying to recover from your mental wounds and also a big surgical operation, which isn't pleasant I can tell you. Risk of lots of complications. Paracetamol o/d, or any o/d really is not the way to go.

mandyc66 · 15/06/2005 23:28

is your mum really that bad.
have you tried talking to her? not shouting not arguing but talking?

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Chyla · 15/06/2005 23:28

professional help like what? I'm not some looney lol. It just all gets me so down and with my mum refusing to accept she's acting out of order and no one to help me get out of the situation, its impossible to resolve it.

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starshaker · 15/06/2005 23:29

i really need to go feed dd but i will try and look in on this thread a little later. you really need to get help and get out of there if its maing u this unhappy

mandyc66 · 15/06/2005 23:29

have you really taken them?

Jimjams · 15/06/2005 23:30

If your mum is interested in an internet guy then she is. Nothing you can do about it.

First go to A and E and sort out the overdose.

Then get professional help to hep with your anger toards your mother. And then work on getting an income so you can get away. Small steps- but with professional help.

10 paracetamol can kill, often doesn't, but is likely to cause serious, permanent liver damage. Not fun. Make sure you get treatment.

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Chyla · 15/06/2005 23:30

I always try talking to her like an adult but she just tells me to get out if it's something you doesn't like or want to hear.

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collision · 15/06/2005 23:30

You need some counselling if you are trying to kill yourself. Do you have children of your own? How old are you?

Hi Huggy.

Jimjams · 15/06/2005 23:31

At the moment you need to sort out the OD- not worry about your mother.

Flossam · 15/06/2005 23:32

People who need professional help are not looneys. Quite the contrary. IMO, those who seek help are the sensible ones who can see that life is getting too much for them and they need to do something to rectify the balance. YOu are inadvertantly insulting a lot of people on mumsnet. I know you are not quite right in your mind atm, but it is not normal to o/d on paracetamol. Do you really want to die or are you ust hurt that your mum wants to talk to this man?

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Chyla · 15/06/2005 23:32

Yes I took them and now I feel really sick.

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Chyla · 15/06/2005 23:32

Im 21 in Manchester

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SleepyJess · 15/06/2005 23:32

I take that back.. sorry.. it's very unwise to predict how many paracetamols could or not kill a person, it depends on so many factors.

HappyHuggy · 15/06/2005 23:33

so, are you going to the hospital?

(hiya collission )

mandyc66 · 15/06/2005 23:34

it seems very drastic just because your mum is on line!!!!
I am risisting the temptation to say grow up...oops said it!!!
Isnt your life worth more!!!

Flossam · 15/06/2005 23:34

Start by trying to take control. You are your own person, if you need to get out of your mothers house then do so. Get a job, do whatever. I wouldn't normally advocate this, but if you are feeling sick, put your fingers down your throat, throw up and then check yourself in to a and e. Did you see anyone the last time you o/d?

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Chyla · 15/06/2005 23:34

I'm not hurt that she wants to talk to him but when it affects my life too, and when she puts him before me and I have done so much for my mother, that's what upsets me. It upsets me that she stopped my father seeing me when I was a child and that she forced me to terminate my baby boy and that she has a go at me for every tiny little thing, and that she never ever listens to me and my problems but has time for everyone else.

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mandyc66 · 15/06/2005 23:35

does drinking salt water work to help you vomit?

collision · 15/06/2005 23:35

For goodness sake, get a cab and get to the hospital asap.

Your mother is obv no good for you and you need to get away from her. She sounds very selfish to me. Tomorrow go to CAB and see if you can get some help with jobs or housing.

What else is the matter with your life? Is it just your mother or are there other things too? There are many MNetters with awful mothers too. It really is not worth stressing so much about her. Make her mad and do something with your life.

mandyc66 · 15/06/2005 23:36

you are a women!
try not to depend on her!

HappyHuggy · 15/06/2005 23:36

call the samaritians?

they'll listen and help you talk through everything.

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