Double your money, double your fun ... Have a group marriage?

[Iamapolytoo]

"Group marriage is a form of polyamory in which more than one man and more than one woman form a family unit, with all the members of the group marriage being considered to be married to all the other members of the group marriage, and all members of the marriage share parental responsibility for any children arising from the marriage."

But if you are going to throw traditional monogamy out, why the hell would you want to get married anyway? It sounds like all disadvantages of ordinary marriages x H (where H is the number of husbands). Oh yes and W sets of PMT as well (where W is the number of wives).

No thanks.

Ohh it's you again.

Hello!

If I wanted advice on relationships I would want not want to go to somebody involved in a "system" with a failure rate anything like the failure rate of traditional marriage as practised in the UK.

I can see little or no evidence that the one man one woman system works for even the majority of folk I know or read about.

Open your mind to alternatives, changes or other ways of doing things.

OrmIrian - why restrict yourself to one person to love like a husband when there are others round at least as good that you are shutting yourself away from?

But I love DH. If I didn't want to be with him I wouldn't want another DH - I don't find marriage that satisfactory an arrangment in itself. It's the man in question that makes it what is it. However it clearly works for you which is good.

Mumsnet inclusive?

Don't think so love

"why restrict yourself to one person to love like a husband when there are others round at least as good that you are shutting yourself away from?"

Whay are you restricting your self to two men and one sister?

Why not have 4 men, and 3 women. Or maybe 7 men and 9 women? Or 25 men and 197 women?

Just imagine all the love you're shutting yourself out of.

I echo Riven. What is the point of this thread? What are you trying to achieve?

OP, there is not enough evidence on the success rates of poly relationships because they are a very small minority. You preaching about how great it is to be a 'poly' (using the term lightly with you as you are not a member of a poly-relationship quite obviously) is being petty and shows that you obviously are worried about something because one does not go on about it that much if one is not uncomfortable with the situation and is trying to prove to themselves that they believe in it.

It is personal preference as to how many people are in the relationship, commonly in the western world this is restricted to two people, and I'd like to know where your evidence of the failure of these relationships comes from because though divorce rates are increasing, the majority of people still stay with their partners.

To make claims you need evidence.

Hard evidence is almost impossible to provide as lots of people will lie about their personal circumstances to nosy researchers anyway - and partly because non-monogamous groupings are regarded with such suspicion and hostility that people often prefer to shut up about it if they live somewhere a bit remote and don't want the swivel-eyed villagers at the gates with burning torches (or, more prosaically, if they don't want the News of the World round and Stern Words from their employers).
From anecdotal evidence, I have known some very strong and long lasting (20-30 years or so) marriages of swinging couples, and a couple of pretty stable poly groups.
But I'm not sure that lenght of a relationship is that big a deal in itself. A relationship that lasts for a few months, is enjoyable while it lasts and which ends reasonably amicably, is surely more valuable than one that limps along with bored, miserable partners grimly trying to Make It Work and secretly hoping for each other to either leave or die.

"My sister and I have a loving but non-sexual (in the way I suspect you are using it)relationship."
What other way is there to use the term? It is either sexual or it isn't.
Are you identical or non-identical twins?
I can see the advantages and disadvantages of this kind of set up, but the thing I find gross distasteful is that the other wife is your twin sister. It all feels a bit incestuous to me.
You are very odd!

Is there a husband catalogue?
I'll have one to do the garden, one to wash the cars, one to do the shopping and one to do the ironing please, then me and my husband can bugger off and enjoy ourselves.

If one person isn't everything you need and more, doesn't meet all your spiritual and emotional ( and sexual) needs - You're with the WRONG person, end of.

I actually agree wholeheartedly with SGB's last paragraph - life is far too short to spend it with someone with whom you are unhappy.
Some people can't handle sharing their life with one partner, let alone several!

Sis is my non-identical twin although I am curious why you feel the distinction is worth asking about?!

I love her in a different way to the way I love my co-husbands and in a diiferent way to the way I love my daughters. Not more, nor less just different.

I only asked out of nosiness curiosity, really - no need to get defensive.
I understand the way you love your sister is different from your Hs and dc, I just wondered why you didn't just say 'non sexual' and felt the need to define it like that.

I just went and re-read the thread in mumsnet classics.

Fuck me with a spork
I'm a squirter.

Good times, good times.

"I'm a squirter" - yep, twas me.
I seem to have lost the ability though.
It was a lot more fun than this thread.
I can't be arsed to argue with the stupid mare any longer.

Maybe we should take it onto a tangent then?

I vote for punching squirrels. Is it cruel to punch a squirrel?

(Why no more squirty squirty Mal? That's sad)

It is incestuous and any bloke who would enjoy having sex with twin sisters is a grade A creep. Tell that to your poly pals OP.

Totally agree, that's why I don't even believe any of her claptrap in the first place.

"Pornalicious" - exactly. She'll be saying that the "husbands" had sex with opposite twins while pregnant next.

Definitely cruel to punch a squirel, even though Bob ( my tame squirel) pooed on the gargage roof this morning, I still couldn't bring myself to punch him!
Probably "no squirty squirty" due to positions atm, poor hubby's got a bad shoulder so I'm having to be gentle with him, there could have been a bit last night though, rather a large wet patch occured and I'm walking a bit funny this morning!

It is so easy for a troll to get a response from Mumsnet readers that it hardly seems worth the effort.

OTOH any form of non-traditional activity seems to upset folk so much more here than in the real world. I wonder why?