Double your money, double your fun ... Have a group marriage?

[Iamapolytoo]

"Group marriage is a form of polyamory in which more than one man and more than one woman form a family unit, with all the members of the group marriage being considered to be married to all the other members of the group marriage, and all members of the marriage share parental responsibility for any children arising from the marriage."

Where can I sign up?

SO dose that mean I would have to get more then one headache at the same time?

sorry I haven't got time for that...I am too busy shagging my DH 53 times a week and already have to try and fit in my affair wanting bumsex another 28 times.

Fook doing two lots of washing and ironing, I'm not marrying my other fella, DH wouldn't share his bumsex night with anyone else.

Dittany: Well, because most people insist that the polyamorous are nuts, that the women are not happy and have been coerced into it by wicked men who want extra sex, that everyone who is into polyamory is a physically unattractive desperate freak, that the polyamorouse have sex with their own kids (because, after all, they reject monogamy they must be mentally ill and unfit parents)...
Anyone who is a member of any kind of stigmatized minority group, whether that's cardboard box fetishists, trainspotters or Leona Lewis fans, is entitled to defend their preferences and try to explain their choices if they want to.

but sgb, this person is not defending anything

it just keeps randomly posting strange missives on how wonderful polyamory is

no-one even mentions it unless it comes along and does it again

so not "defence", just annoying really

no wonder people take the piss

a weirdo is a weirdo whether it is Leona or having lots of shag-partners that are inter-related that you are into

Most happily married people (couples, groups, or whatever) don't feel the need to constantly bring up the subject of their fab and blissful union to others, and especially to total strangers. I wonder if the OP really is as enamoured with the concept as she keeps trying to get people believe?

What a strange set of postings!

I don't "constantly bring up the subject" - before contributing to one thread and starting another yesterday when was my last posting ScaredOfGhouls?

With so many people on Mumsnet reporting marital problems I certainly don't need to defend adopting a better alternative. Living as a four has many emotional, financial and practical advantages. What really annoys some folks here is that my co-wife is my sister. Sadly they have never articulated the basis of their problems with this arrangement.

We have a system that offers more support to the children and to the adults and although not fault free has worked well for over 30 years. Freaks, I don't think so!

"Sadly they have never articulated the basis of their problems with this arrangement."

WTF!

Further arrogant assumption that your living arrangements are of any interest to anyone other than yourselves.

Really, what are you trying to achieve with this thread?

ScaredofGhouls: this is the same as people going, 'Oh I don't mind gays but why do they have to go on about it' when what they mean is 'Look, the default setting for human relationships is heteromonogamy. If you can't be decent enough to conform to that, have the decency to shut up and pretend you don't exist'. People who are not heteromonogamous are always being accused of '#going on about it' because they have to choose on a fairly constant basis between pointing out that their private life is not the same as the majority of people's, or lying by omission.

SGB, your defending the indefensible - in our society it's not "normal" to have poly marriages, just because a few strange individuals choose to live in these set ups doesn't mean we have to accept it and be all understanding.
It's NOTHING like being gay or straight, it's a pure lifestyle choice, nothing more and I really don't want to know about it or understand it.

SolidGhoulBrass has made the point I wish I had made. So many folk are unhappy in their (acceptable to Malificence) marriages yet so few ever consider that there might be a sensible alternative.

RealityBites knows quite well that I am not a troll or the same person as Extended (or any of Extended's manifestations) so any references to the spoof/indentity theft material posted by Extended et al are pointless. It would be quite simple for "the powers that be" to check the IP addresses involved and I would welcome them doing so.

Malificence rants on about "and I really don't want to know about it or understand it." So don't read the thread then - no need to confirm your narrow-minded approach to the world at large! Yes I do still think you are somehow involved in the Extended postings, some of the phrases you use are so familiar!

I accept Polyamory and am open to the point that I'd be a happy pariticipant in it if my and my partner found somebody who we loved as much as one another; however, I think I'd have an issue with my sister being my co-wife

Haha! That sheep farm one was classic and made my day, please tell us another story about thunderstorms and conceiving next to each other whilst the sheep were being born or whatever i'm bored and am about to have an early lunch at my desk and could do with a bit of jack-a-fucking-nory...

The emotional links between twins are very complicated and I am sure that they played a part in how our marriage developed. The longest we have ever been apart would have been ten days or so for honeymoons or the spell Sis had in hospital during her pregnancy.

I simply could not image "grown up" life without her around. Childcare for example was quite complicated enough with four adults in the house, how do people manage in a pair?

Oh god, don't encourage her!
We'll have more imaginary tales of the unexpected.
I'm wondering if I've banged heads with her before as "polyputhekettleon" ( I kid you not) on the MSE forums?

Oo, where can I find this sheep story?

The original post said - "Group marriage is a form of polyamory in which more than one man and more than one woman form a family unit, with all the members of the group marriage being considered to be married to all the other members of the group marriage, and all members of the marriage share parental responsibility for any children arising from the marriage."

Again, I would like to know just what was the point of this thread.

Was s/he trying to provoke discussion? Or be controversial? Or something else entirely?

it's just a great way to sleep with people other than your spouse and kidding yourself it is a positive and enriching thing to do , as you don't have the guts to commit to one life partner

I don't see peeps from any other "minority" groups coming on here and trying to convert people

None of our gay members, eg, try to tell us their way is the best way

It is almost evangelical the way it goes on about bunking up with your sis and brother in law

It is just as narrow-minded and judgemental, I think, to attempt to force your life choices on others, especially when it is clear we are not fucking interested

Scary if you are not interested why read or post to this thread?

I though the whole point of this forum was to discuss relationships. If there is some hidden agenda whereby the intended inclusiveness of Mumsnet is to be diminished by you shouting people down then at least be honest and spell it out.