Is DP not wanting a vasectomy a bad sign for our relationship?

[mumkin]

we have been together for 7 yrs have a 15 year DD (step daughter to DP) a 2 yr DS, and pregnant with third. we are both 35. I dont actually want to force him to have aVasectomy I realise its his choice, but I felt insecure when I brought it up as a possibility and he said he didnt want anymore children but what if I died/or we split up and he got a new partner. his answer made me feel scared and insecure and ridiculously jealous! , I told him this he felt sorry but that was his true feeling about the issue.

thank you (sorry Ive changed my name)magummum that makes me feel much better. its so irrational feeling like this Im gonna put it to rest, use condoms when the baby is born and leave it up to DP.

Freeze that spunk.

DH went for vasectomy after DC3 was born apparently after 7 miscarriages he didnt want any further pregnancy to damage my health (l have Lupus). He knew he didn't want any more children-l knew l couldn't /shouldn't try for any more and he reasoned it was safer for him to have the snip as felt l had been through enough and it was now his turn. Bless him he is a star :)

OP yes

Dh won't do it either. It is not a case of not wanting to, he can't! He has a huge dr/hospital phobia that stops him being able to do it.

He saw his dr about it, read up on it...but cannot get up the balls courage to actually have it done. But that's ok with me. He tried. He would do it if not for this phobia.

But I don't see it as a bad sign for our marriage. It is a very personal thing & tbh, if you view this as a bad sign, I would have to say that it isn't the only issue in the relationship!

I don't think it says anything about your relationship that he doesn't want a vasectomy.

I think it says a lot that he is planning more children after you're dead.