can you really remarry "too soon" after a berevament

[CNyle]

you STILL hear abotu this dont you

like here

does it really matter?

My mother, who was a very wise woman IMO, told my father he wasn't allowed to make any major decisions within two years of her death, including marriage, selling major assets, leaving the country etc. This was based on the premise that grieving people don't always make the best decisions - the pain of grief can prompt you to do things that, with a cooler head, you would not have done.

She had absolutely no objection to him dating within that period, though - just not marriage. (Dad insists he has no intention of doing either, ever...)

My friend talked to her children before she died about the possibility that their dad might find somebody new and made it clear that she was very happy with that. Their dad is now seeing somebody, and the dd has told her friends that she and her siblings are happy about that. My friend took several years to die: the whole family had worked their way through a lot of the grieving by the time she finally left them. I see nothing wrong; in fact, I'm wondering whether my friend might not have had an eye on the possibility of this relationship developing.

I've been widowed for just over 2 years. Our daughter will be 2 at the end of October. I've thought about this subject quite a bit. I also read the article at the weekend.

I thought that the article was unfortunately worded in some places, as has been mentioned here.

I think that 5 months after being widowed is WAY too soon - but that is my opinion. He would have been "pre-grieving" too.

I know that my late OH would not know if I met anybody else, but the thing is, I'm still in love with a man who's dead...

good tip PW

IME true friends would only be too pleased to see a bereaved person finding someone else. Tis true of the only man I know that lost his wife - she was 'the love of his life' and we never thought he'd marry again.

LemonyLemon [[{{{hugs}}}]]

I'm with you, Lemonylemon - it's been three years for me, and I still can't imagine being with anyone else...