ds has chickenpox and we are both really snowed under at work and dp took two days off so I could go in, has looked after ds like a good'un, with lots of playing and gourmet lunch! he has also got dinner ready. I am off now to give him a break. I am posting this in haste - v rushed - to show anyone else who might be interested there is hope when things have been bleak (we have had some ups and downs this year)