marriage in tatters

[wearefinished]

That says it all really, I think we are splitting up and I don't know how to do it. We are incompatible.

We have two children under six.

I am scared and feel ashamed. What is it like being a lone parent in the home counties? New to the area we live in very few friends, would it be better in London is it more lone parent friendly?

Husband is no longer calling me by my 'short' name and this, silly though it is, somehow confirms its gone.

It is difficult no matter where you are but although very painful it does eventually get better.

Hugs to you.

I'm sorry you are in this situation and I haven't much advice except to say that you shouldn't consider yourself a "lone parent" as in your children only have one parent and you have no support. He will, I imagine, still be playing a full role in their lives? Don't move away from him - the closer you are the better for your kids (and you) once the dust has settled.

At the moment I don't think that I will be able to cope with being alone with the children.

I feel so panicked. It is probably my fault, that is not fashionable to admit, that we are breaking up. No one else is involved and he is a decent person and a wonderful father.

I think we are dependant on each other, scared of being alone, but we do not love each other.

So you can be good parents who live apart. That's the most important thing, that your kids don't suffer. They will adjust to the new reality as they are so young. Its no surprise you feel panicked - who wouldn't?
Try to keep things amicable and be as close to friends as you can get. It won't be easy but you sound like you still care about each other and respect each other. No-one has done anything horrible so you can make this new life work - together but apart.