Does your partner help you with the kids' birthday parties, or even just when you have friends over for a meal? My not so d h seems to get in a sulk every time, because I do tend to nag him, because he stands there doing nothing...I do get really uptight, especially recently I stupidly had a big birthday party with too many kids, which I regret...but a little bit of help would have been nice. Is this normal behaviour? I wish he'd just admit it and go to the pub, and then I'd have a clear picture of what our relationship is like, rather than getting so dissapointed.