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DH just not interested in being a family

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turtle23 · 14/06/2009 06:57

I am very sad. DH and I tried for ages to have DS (now 14 months) and DH was very keen on becoming a parent. He would go on and on about how he came from a big family and children were so important...blahblahblah. He has shown so little interest in DS it is sad.
We have just been on our first holiday as a family and he spent the entire week shouting that he wasn't getting enough sleep, that it was boring playing with DS, what was he meant to do all day as there was just lovely beach and pool etc and not much else. He refused to help when DS was tiny and I was on the verge of PND from lack of sleep. He will not feed him. He will not change him. He goes out alll the time to AVOID playing families. I feel as though I am living with all the shitty bits of single parenting and the shitty bits of marriage and none of the benefits. Like an idiot, I am now 17 weeks pregnant with number two and it has got me thinking whether my kids and I would be better off without him. Sadly, my major concern would be that he would farm the kids out if faced with weekend visits. Anybody feel like chewing this over with me?

OP posts:
Jux · 16/06/2009 21:34

If things improve between you, will you be able to forgive him for these years? That's the one I struggle with.

turtle23 · 18/06/2009 07:38

I can't see into the future, so who knows.

Our chat really only resulted in giving each other a list of things we were pissed off about. He keeps saying that he wants us to work. Who knows. I am more confused now.

OP posts:
TheLadyP · 18/06/2009 10:39

Turtle, the Relate website might be helpful: www.relate.org.uk

walkinthewoods · 19/06/2009 06:52

Hey turtle, how are things?

At least your chat got you talking and at least he said he wants it to work. I would second relate, better to have tried all routes rather than just wondering.

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