Our realationship is dead. seperate rooms for 4 years, no mutual respect. DH is controlling and verbally abusive. he claims if I leave he will fight for custody despite having no interest in DC 4 and 6. never does parties, swimming lessons, homework, joins us on days out at weekends. went away for 1/2 term he had lie ins everyday and I took them out on my own3 days. i just want to start again and not be treading on egg shells all the time. things will get worse when he knows and I just feel like packing up in hols