Do I have an affair if he will never find out?

[lizzyboo]

Ok, been with DP for 5 years 2 children, he's my best friend and I love him, but not how I should anymore. We don't sleep together and sleep in separate bedrooms. I know he loves me but we are like brother and sister now.
I have a male friend who I always flirt with and kissed when out with a couple of weeks ago. Friend and I have been texting and its pretty clear that if I am up for a fling so is he. My DP would not find out, I spend time with this friend and go out with him every few weeks. Do I do it?

Yes I think you should go straight ahead.

Trollgate again

Perhaps you should sort out what is going on in your life already before you start another relasionship

bill fwiw i dont recall most of MN.i do switch off and switch off

i dont read posts recalling the complete jist

By lizzyboo on Thu 21-May-09 14:17:05
There is no physical relasionship, there never was really, just a quick fumble, but he has always wanted to do the right thing by his son. we do't even socialise together, I am seeing another bloke.

Seems pointless to ask the question when it appears you already are! Rather inconsistent in your stories!

scottishmummy, it has always astounded me too why Bin Laden and Lord Lucan have never been found by a mumsnetter!!

im telling you if osama or Lucan came here name changed or made contradictory posts someone would sniff em out straight off

LOL the thing is if someone did find and announce then they's be decried as troll or half term poster

It's up to you- you are a grown up- make up your own mind.

No but SM if you had read that one yesterday you might remember it.

doubt it.i switch off and switch off.

Oh it took me a minute to understand what that means.