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I have long accepted that DH is a workaholic, but really this takes the biscuit

29 replies

bran · 29/05/2009 20:18

He was reading The Gruffalo's Child to DS (nearly 5 yo) before bedtime and he stopped half-way through to take a business call on his mobile.

He tried to improve matters by waving the book at me across the room and waggling his eye-brows to suggest I should take over because DS was trying to sing down the phone (that's my boy ).

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FabulousBakerGirl · 29/05/2009 20:19

That isn't that bad and you could have carried on reading so your son didn't miss out.

BreevandercampLGJ · 29/05/2009 20:20

Nuts - Net - Wearing...

warthog · 29/05/2009 20:20

i get you bran. that is a bit much...

BreevandercampLGJ · 29/05/2009 20:20

Wasn't aware that Bran refused to.

FabulousBakerGirl · 29/05/2009 20:21

But she didn't say she had either.

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bran · 29/05/2009 20:22

Really? You don't think it's all that bad FBG? I may have to reconsider my attitude to DH. It was only 10 mins off bed-time, he could have ignored it and phoned the guy back.

I don't understand Bree's post [dim emoticon]

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MrsTittleMouse · 29/05/2009 20:22

The Gruffalo's Child is such a long complicated book to read too, isn't it? No chance of calling back after he'd finished.

BreevandercampLGJ · 29/05/2009 20:23

And whats more, bedtime should be sacrosanct, my DH switches his mobile for bed time and our DS is 8.

FabulousBakerGirl · 29/05/2009 20:23

I just think sometimes calls need to be dealt with and it doesn't hurt for a child to wait. DH does most of the bedtime stuff but I will step in if he needs to do something.

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bran · 29/05/2009 20:24

I didn't read it. I believe in natural consequences, and watching DH trying fend off DS was hilarious. I did, helpfully, mouth "You are such a workaholic" at DH.

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Lizzylou · 29/05/2009 20:25

That is not good, why was the mobile even in the room whilst he was reading? (I realise am assuming it was in your DS's bedroom).

I too am too thick to understand your post Bree Nice to "see" you though...

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bran · 29/05/2009 20:30

They were on the sofa in the sitting room (which DS calls the "city room" ) and I was down at the dining end on the computer. The mobile was in DH's pocket. It's never switched off, although it's often left behind in places.

I think I should point out that DH doesn't do anything terribly important, although he thinks it is. Nobody was going to die/get arrested/loose a fortune if he had phoned back later.

Interestingly, we are going away tomorrow until Wednesday and I overheard him saying that he's sure there is broadband at the cottage and he'll be able to do something about 'it' from there. Another fun-filled holiday for me then.

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FabulousBakerGirl · 29/05/2009 20:32

On the rare occasion DH takes time off work they always ring him at home to sort things out. It is just the way it is.

Lizzylou · 29/05/2009 20:32

OOh Bran, any way you can sabotage the broadband or summat? Lose the mobile charger?

I think it is good to have a strong work ethic, very admirable, but it is good to strike a balance and 10 mins wouldn't have made a huge difference.

lisad123 · 29/05/2009 20:34

we dont answer the phone if doing bedtime. I think if your home, your not at work and im sure 99% could wait till morning!

FabulousBakerGirl · 29/05/2009 20:36

I must make it clear that if DH was doing anything especially with the kids he would ring back but when work ring they need him for something and it needs sorting pretty much there and then. I guess it all depends what job your Dh does.

BreevandercampLGJ · 29/05/2009 20:37

LizzyLou

It meant was he wearing his nuts in a net as a result of it.

dilemma456 · 29/05/2009 20:39

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bran · 29/05/2009 20:46

His nuts are intact - I am feeling mellow today.

The phonecall was to update DH about some contract that they are going for, it could have waited. DH didn't even try very hard to justify it to me, he just said it was important the this guy was congratulated for his hard work. I think he just answered it because he's unable to put work second, ever.

The cottage doesn't have broadband, DH never asked me if it did and until he does ask me I'm not telling him. [evil grin] It's in a small village so I doubt there's even an internet cafe anywhere. DH is going to be very jittery by the time we leave.

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Lizzylou · 29/05/2009 20:47

Bree - AAAH HAA!

Lizzylou · 29/05/2009 20:48

Bran, hope you have a lovely time.

dilemma456 · 30/05/2009 10:10

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bran · 05/06/2009 14:30

He did devote a lot of time and effort to getting online as you predicted dilemma. I let him set up the computer and search, then waited for him to ask whether it was wi-fi or a cable connection before telling him there wasn't one. [evil] In the end the best that he could do was to go to the public library and deal with his emails, and it wasn't open at the weekend.

He did get extremely twitchy about it all and has instructed me to research the best dongle connections to avoid the same happening in the future. I've forgotten that he asked me to do so.

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LibrasBiscuitsOfFortune · 05/06/2009 14:36

I don't know any job that can't wait 10minutes to take a phone call out of hours.