I've been with him for over 10 years and we have 3 children together. We finally decided to get married earlier this year (around january time) and it's all booked. Yesterday he said he doesn't want to marry me and that I should cancel it - to which I replied that if he doesn't want to get married he should bloody well have the guts to cancel it himself and not expect me to do it!
Basically I've told him he has two options to either cancel it or stand me up on the day because I am not cancelling it - we've paid out alot of money already, my family and friends have paid a lot of money to come to the wedding and I will not be the one to do it.
He has been creating arguments lately, I think, in the hope that it will kick off an almighty row that will give him the easy out he is looking for.
His reason when I asked him what the .... he was playing at, was to tell me that he can't stand me, I'm a horrible person ect. But in the middle of this rant about how awful I am he said he feels so trapped. So I think as it gets nearer he's feeling very trapped and as if it's the end of his life.
But what am i supposed to do, he won't talk to me at all. He won't talk about it at all either.
I simply cannot cancel it, what on earth would I tell my kids - they are so excited about the whole thing.
Also I asked him what exactly he thought would happen after he cancelled the wedding (assuming he's actually going to do it), adn I think he expects us to carry on living in the same house together!
Just don't know what to do or think. I know you'll tell me to talk to him, but what do you do if someone refuses to do that.
He's just got in after being out all day (I've been with the dc's) and he's gone straight upstairs adn not said one word to me.