If you were single with kids when you got together with your current partner, where/how did you meet them?

[SpaceSaver]

Because right now, I cannot imagine bumping into any single male (bar the postman and the odd builder), any time soon.

I don't want - don't need - a relationship right now. I do feel a bit lonely, but want to have a breather from being part of a couple, and instead to focus on me for a while. But I'd like to be with someone again, when the time's right. Yet when I think of the kind of work I do, the area I live in, and DS being a priority, and the fact that everyone in our community and who we mix with is in a (seemingly) happy, intact conventional family ... I just don't see scope for meeting a new fella. None.

So, tell me how you did it!

Dating site. He was the second person I met from there after my marriage had ended in divorce and my DD was 1. We're still together 3 years on and I'm now pregnant with DC 2.

Used dating site because all my friends were married with children and although we went out occasionally, it was always for meals in family type restaurants, not anywhere you were likely to meet someone.

Also used site because I was stuck at home every night on my own once she was in bed and it was one way of chatting to people when you can't leave the house.

Word of warning though - some of the men are quite clearly already involved / involved with many women off there

Work and it was totally unexpected, he was one of the last people I least expected to get together with.

And I'd stopped looking for a fella by then,I'd resigned myselfn to being on my own for a long time.

I'd dated some right creeps after ex too.

Through work. He wasn't really 'my type' but I was intrigued by him thinking he could be my last ditch attempt at coupleness!!

My car window broke and by chance I drove past his house (had to anyway to get home), he was outside and I asked him to fix it for me.

Got his number next time he came into work, shared a packet of wine gums and the rest is history.

He met my DS the day after our first date and we've been together ever since - 2 years almost.

He's just bought a property for 'our' future investment. Love 'im!

By chance at a neighbours daughters birthday party, he was loosely related to them, I was a neighbour! Very unexpected and was very happily single as was he (we were both single parents)

I do now struggle with my 'title' though.

Am a single parent even though I'm in a long term relationship, or am I not!?

I call myself a lone parent, as I live alone with my DS, but I talk about my DP on MN, which makes it sound like I'm in a cohabiting relationship, so must confuse people!

I just confused myself!

I understood you, LastOrders! I see what you mean. You are no longer single, but you are a lone parent most of the time ... which is maybe why the two separate terms exist? Is your fella like a dad when he's around? I'd find it weird living with someone/having them over regularly in the evenings and me doing all the child-related stuff (bedtime, homework, packed lunch, etc) while they watched telly. They'd not be obligated to do it, but wouldn't it feel unequal if they didn't? Fill me in on how it works ...

Thanks for posts. I need to widen my work horizons then, or hope a friend or neighbour will happen to have a lovely single man over for the next get-together ... oh dear, I'm sounding desperate now. I have PMT. I'm thinking too far ahead and deciding it obviously isn't going to happen. Time to switch off, I think!

Spacesaver I am in that kind of position, not looking, but just WONDERING, how on EARTH do people meet!!! My job certainly does not offer that opportunity! I am generally fine single, but I am interested to know how people actually meet!

I understand what you mean LastOrders. IMO you are a lone parent until your new DP moves in with you and lives with you or vice versa.

Just started dating someone I met on POF. I had signed up for innocent flirting but he was (is!) lovely and decided I did want more than Talk / Email....

I probably NEVER would have met him otherwise, despite living only 4 miles apart.

I met DP on a dating website after 3 years of being single and dating some of the biggest wankers in the world.

Its been 3 years now

At an art exhibition, while the ex had the kids. I had promised to go, even though the visiting friend who was due failed to show...it worked out well though, because I couldn't have spent all night talking to him if I'd had to entertain anyone else! Fly solo and be brave, is my tip!

Internet dating. He is single parent too, we would maybe have met in the park otherwise, but unlikely! He puts it well - he wanted to find an intelligent, attractive (to him anyway!!) sociable woman of similar age, who didn't want any children (he doesn't want to have any more) - he decided that woman was probably at home with her own children, and he was unlikely to meet her in the pub randomly. Hey presto, here we are! And we're very happy, although it can be a nightmare of organisation!!

On a very insalubrious website.

It was very fun.

Via the internet. But not through a dating site or anything like that! It was a chat/discussion forum, we realised we were local to each other & started chatting a lot. Then decided to meet.

The rest is history, 4 years later we have our own DS

Dating site for me. But it was hard work trying to go on dates - cost a fortune in babysitters!