Fuck Buddys

[Claire2009]

Have you ever done 'fuck buddy' sex?

How was it? Do you regret it?

Just curious here!

anymore??

Did it twice. First time I fell in love with him but he didn't feel quite the same for me. We were great friends then while we were travelling together (still fucking) he met a girl, fell in love and married her. Broke my heart but now I am very glad as a year or so later I became fuck buddies with my best friend and now we are married with two kiddies. Best thing that ever happened to me.

So both sides of the story for ya.

BTW I do not go around randomly finding male friends to fuck

Thats great

I don't want anything more than 'fun' and have done 'fun' but got too emotionally attached at the time. Now I have a 'fun' friend back in the scene & can't decide if I should go for it or not.........

Never works. Either you like 'em or you don't.

What do you mean never works?!

I like him, a lot...

One I was FB with I didn't particularly fancy, it was more he being into me. I felt bad, but needed the fucks iyswim.

Right now, realising I have been the FB of a man I loved. It stinks. He has used me, I told myself I was using him too...blah blah. I'm the hurt one.

I had one for a while and it was lots of fun and was fantastic for me while I was in no way ready for a relationship after XH left but was desperate for sex.
He was 7 years younger than me so I felt it was unlikely that we'd fall for each other properly, and the sex was amazing.
It ended when he fell in love with me but I do not regret it at all.

I had a FB for abut a year, a good friend who lives about 2 hours away.... its now evolved into a monogomous relationship and has been like that for about 6 months. I am very happy.

For us, it really worked, as when we first started we had both recently come out of relationships and needed a bit of time to have a bit of freedom and fun with others.

To be honest, I wanted to have sex, but didn't want to pick up some random guy in a pub and didn't want to complicate things with someone at work - so a friend who I trusted seemed a good idea.

For me, I realised how I felt for him (and him for me) when I had a car accident and he dropped everything and drove for 6 hours straight to come and see me at hospital (I was visiting family at the time). I liked the way it felt to have someone 'there' for me and realised I'd do anything for him too. Oh, and I didn't like the though of him doing anything with any other girls! Took me a bit of time to admit this bit to myself though!

For us, it was quite organic, and a full blown relationship would not have suited either of us at the beginning.

However, there have been a couple of arguments along the way, with neither of us really wanting to say what we did/didn't want and the process of getting from FBs to boyf/girlf was a little bumpy, to say the least.

Another story for you. I hope that helps. What is your story? How long you been single? how long have you known him? How do you know him?

I've had loads, but am not into couplehood or monogamy so I basically prefer them. It's great as long as you conduct yourself ethically (treat everyone, including yourself, with respect, don't tell fibs, don't be unecessarily unkind).

Single 2yrs.
Known him 14mths, met via a mutual friend.
He's single, has 2 kids. As do I..
He works/lives 90% of the time about a 5hr drive from me, but also lives 10 min drive away 2 w/e's p/m...

Either you like each other enough to have a relationship or you don't...if you like him more than he likes you, you will be a shag, otherwise hold your fire and let him get to know you and make a decision. You will only get hurt if you don't, honestly...

afaik they are called "friends with benefits" now rather than "f*ckbuddies'.

never had one myself.

I had a freind with benefits but I got feelings for him and realised and broke it off as quickly as possible.

He then wanted it to get more serious and I was really glad to accomodate but it never moved on from sex only and so it dawned on me he wanted his cake and eat it (wanted the sex but not the involvement). It confused me a lot but then I found out he was involved with someone and was inbetween getting back with her and I was a 'time filler' so I dumped him again and stayed well away.

Was good fun though, but very hard not to get involved.

BoF: It depends what you mean by 'a relationship'. I think the defining aspect of fuck-buddy situations is that they are not exclusive, and there is nothing wrong with that. Sex doesn't have to be allied to planning lives together, after all, it can just be for fun.

No prude here, but Fuck Buddy sounds vile. I know what you mean but the term is vile!

and yes, i have...

Have namechanged for this.

Have had a friend with benefits a long time ago, met each other, had a similar sense of humour and he's v good looking. Neither of us wanted a relationship and we were both very honest with other from the start about what we wanted/expected.

(For the record I always lived like I was in a Jane Austen novel, falling 150% in love, virtually expecting marriage from the onset etc. When this happened though, I was in the process of getting over an ex and had an epiphany that I didn't care about any love stuff anymore and to hell with it all sort of thing). Anyway, he was a bit of a tart quite the romeo and so we were both in the right place so to speak, for that sort of relationship. Twas great, had a fun few months, then I suddenly felt like I wanted more in life (just not with him ) and was ready to work on being happy within myself without any blokes in any shape or form. I told him, he appreciated my honesty and we called it a day.

Thing is, we just became friends after that (we did get on very well and had a good laugh together), he went on to have a series of various proper girlfriends (interspersed with the odd slutty period) and about a year later I met my now dh, and erm, well he's still a good mutual friend of ours (dh gets on well with him and we both really like his current gf) and he is dd's godfather. But, and this is the reason I have namechanged, dh doesn't know that we were once friends with benefits and I had totally forgotten about this until I saw this thread. I suppose that after the fling side finished, we just hung out as ordinary friends and then neither of us spoke about it again and I suppose I almost forgot (or perhaps more like it seemed like it happened in another life?)

Yep, been there done that and i've found that either you or him will hvae stronger feelings than the other. For me it started off fine but emotions got in the way and splitting was hard - for both of us!

Its a great idea but distance is needed and emotions so tend to get in the way.

I had one, we both had always been in a relationship when the other was single previously. He was someone i'd been intrested in for about 10 years and vice versa, and had had a few nights out together in the past but not much more but there was huge chemistry, probably more so with him than pretty much any other person i've been in a relationship with.

When we both found ourselves single we became 'friends with benefits' for months, went on dates etc too and spent every day talking on emails whilst at work. This was until my step sister came back from travelling and fancied him becoming her 'friend with benefits' too and he did - I was mortified but had no real claim over him as he wasn't my boyfriend. I haven't spoken to him since and it took years for me to forgive my step sister. Turns out she wanted way more from him than he wanted so she ended up pretty gutted too when he dumped her.

Can of worms indeed!