To set the scene I am married to a (usually) totally unabusive and supportive man
Last night I had a tiff with dh over sex. Basically my sex drive at the moment is zero and he wanted sex. This is usually not a problem but last night totally out of character he got shirty. First he demanded I give him a handjob-I got upset at this and accused him of treating me like a paid companion with no regard to my feelings. Then as I went to get out of bed he leant over and bit me on the back.
This wasnt a playful bite, it was really hard and really painful. He then started crying and begging me not to leave
Now this morning I can't lay on my back or lean against a chair because of this massive bruise on my back (complete with teeth marks).
I understand dv and how it works. He tells me the instinct was to stop me and control me. He's very sheepish and apologetic this morning.
I feel really confused as he's never hurt me before-although he has restrained me in the past which I was really pissed off about. What are your thoughts on this? I don't want to leave. I love him and he's an excellent father.
I just want to hear your thoughts. Why BITE? What's biting all about? He could have grabbed my wrist to stop me (yeah I know absuive in itself). Why bite?
Why the bite