Can someone help me with this as I have myself into a mess with a man and don?t know what to do. Basically I have got involved with someone who is really bad for me and am really confused now.
I am a single parent, I hardly go out as my daughter doesn?t see her father much and I am really lonely. I would love to meet the right man but it is really difficult and I also miss sex very much. I am fed up with sitting on my own in the house and just want to have a bit of fun. My daughter is nearly 5 so it has been a long time now.
There?s a man who I know from a friend of mine and it is obvious that we have both always fancied each other but he is bad news, he takes a lot of drugs (cocaine) and is known for being moody etc and that is why nothing has previously happened.
Recently I decided that we could just have a casual fling and it?d be fun and he rung me asking me out. My daughter had a sleepover and we went out. We had a fantastic night, got on great and then had the most amazing sex I?ve ever had! The following week we did it again and it was even better. I had in my mind (and told him) that this wasn?t a relationship or heading that way because of the drugs etc but just wanted to have fun. One thing that happened though was that he said that at some point in the past he had had sex with a friend of mine. I didn?t actually believe him because I just knew he wasn?t her type but let it go and didn?t say anything.
The following week he had an asthma attack and was in hospital and I visited him a couple of times and I started to feel I was getting more attached. We got on great. In the meantime I asked my friend and she completely denied it.
When he was out of hospital we met up again but this time he was really moody and weird with me. It turned out she had contacted him really annoyed obviously and he had said that he was ?testing me? to see if I was trustworthy and wouldn?t repeat things! He said the same to me and basically the evening was horrible, I wasted £20 on a babysitter for a terrible night. Both me and my friend didn?t believe that he had been testing me but that he had been caught out telling a lie and was embarrassed.
Since then he has apologised to her and to me 3 times by text but hasn?t suggested meeting up again but said that it was down to me to call him! To me, what he had said about her wasn?t ever a big deal, more the mood he was in that ruined the night. Anyway, last night I was with her and we bumped into him in the pub. He did talk to me but it was awkward and her and I moved away. She later went up to him and said that he should talk to me so he came over to me.
He asked if I was around this weekend and I?m not but I said I was able to meet up next Friday so hopefully we will.
But I feel this has become something it wasn?t supposed to and that I am stressing over a man that was supposed to be a casual fling, that I am hooked, that I don?t know how he feels about me etc all because of great sex?!
what should I do???