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DP gone missing, I am racked with anxiety and guilt.

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sausagetits · 29/04/2009 06:42

DP has been having a hard time recently, I didn't help matters last night by losing my patience and my temper. I said some wicked things which I know I should'nt even though he did say some pretty awful things too.

He went out on his motorbike at 2am, won't answer his phone. He left his sat nav here which is very unusual. He hasn't got his bank card with him (or so he told me when I asked) and I don't know what to do.

I've already rung our local A& E but can't face ringing any more hospitals.

I have two DC who will wake up soon, in fact it's a miracle DS is still asleep.

I feel so anxious and have no idea what to do.

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sausagetits · 29/04/2009 10:30

He was at his dad's the whole time and apologised for causing me worry. I apologised for what I said, he's coming home afer he's had breakfast. I don't think we have a relationship anymore but at least he's safe.

This is not the first time I've had cause to be thankful for all the lovely women on mumsnet. I nominate you all for an award for emapathy and support. Thank you all, I mean it. You kept me strong, when I had to be strong for the DC's. I am humbled by all your kindnesses.

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sausagetits · 29/04/2009 10:31

empathy.

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Lizzylou · 29/04/2009 10:49

Hope that you get things sorted, it may not be the end, just try and keep calm and talk things through.
Glad your DP is OK though,

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sausagetits · 29/04/2009 11:06

thank you. I do feel calm now, despite the coffee I've been mainlining since 2am

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Lizzylou · 29/04/2009 11:09

Have you slept at all?
You do need to get some rest, sausage.

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sausagetits · 29/04/2009 11:16

I know I do. DP wasn't going to come back until I told him I hadn't slept. Don't think he's had much rest either though. DS will be going down at about 1.30 so will try to rest then. Better give the coffee a miss for a while. Just feel like I need it to get through the next few hours.

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mamadiva · 29/04/2009 11:44

Hi sausage,

Glad DP is safe, please don't be hasty and say it's all over at the end of the day you can work through anything if you both truly want too.

You've had a shock and you are probably worn out, when you have had a good rest and you 2 can talk it through properly then you can make any decisions that need to be made!

Until then just try and keep calm and relax as best you can! and tell DP he should be bloody thankful that he has a partner who cares so much about him and that you deserve a nice bottle of wine and a meal tonight ;)

poopscoop · 29/04/2009 15:46

just stepped in and dashed here to find out how it all went today.

So pleased you found him, hope you managed to get a bit of rest today

ilove · 29/04/2009 15:49

Glad he is ok, hope you manage to get things sorted

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sausagetits · 29/04/2009 18:00

Thanks for checking back in. He came back, talked, cuddled and things are a lot better than they were.

Thanks everyone

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Northernlurker · 29/04/2009 18:13

Oh what a relief for you!

Glad that things are better now. I hope you've had some sleep as well - you will be wrung out with all this. Make sure you get a square meal into you too.

Lizzylou · 29/04/2009 19:20

Oh Sausage, am so pleased!
Take care of each other

Sorry that sounds a bit cheesy, but is heartfelt.

Can I say now that all is well, that a couple of times I almost giggled, because my friend calls her DS "sausage" and we kept putting "Good luck sausage" etc. That sort of nervous laughter when you know you shouldn't giggle, hope haven't offended, I was v worried for you before. Not making light of today, in the slightest.

Have a good evening and get some sleep x

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sausagetits · 29/04/2009 20:13

lizzylou, I think it's wonderful you find the humour. I just hope Vinegartits doesn't think I've copied her name.

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Lizzylou · 29/04/2009 20:39

Not at all, we have all got tits! And phew, that you weren't offended!
Really hope that you and your DP can sort this out x

Dior · 30/04/2009 11:24

So glad he came back. At least you can talk now. Keep strong.

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sausagetits · 30/04/2009 16:12

Thanks Dior

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GColdtimer · 01/05/2009 10:38

How are things now Sausage? Hope you have managed to do some talking.

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sausagetits · 01/05/2009 12:39

Things are much better now , thanks twofalls. We've kissed and made up. Lessons have been learnt all round.

I feel a bit of a (sausage)tit for panicking but that is just me being melodramatic I guess.

Your support was wonderful, thank you.

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GColdtimer · 01/05/2009 14:01

Glad you have sorted things out sausage and glad you have learnt some lessons.

And I don't think you were being melodramatic - ther is a thread on here a little while ago where I was panicking when DH popped to the shops or something for 10 minutes with DD when she was a baby and was gone 2 hours. I couldn't get hold of him and in my head they were lying injured in a ditch. Once you get a bad thought in your head its hard to shake .

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