Threesomes - anyone tried this....?

[naughtygirly]

I am using a different name for this as I know how judgemental people can be about this sort of thing!

DH and I have a great sex life and a very happy and stable relationship. I have always been turned on by the idea of being with another woman (I am not a lesbian or even bi-sexual as I am not attracted to women as such). Last year we had a short encounter with another woman while on holiday which we both enjoyed but it was a bit limited and we wanted to experience a full on threesome. We have talked about this many times over the past year. Since the occasion on holiday I have also found the idea of watching DH with another woman a big turn on. Obviously being a man the idea of two women is not something he had to think much about!

Anyway after much searching we have found a single girl who we have spoken to several times and we are meeting her this Saturday. I am not nervous or worried btu was wondering if anyone else had done this or if we are in the minority here?

Totally! I will also change my name to Frau Goering just to make sure people know whats in store for them if they should cross me!

Dittany: people risk unplanned pregnancy every time they have sex (that is not specifically TTC sex), they risk STDs every time they have sex with a new partner unless the partner provides a full health certificate or indeed a certificate of virginity, and entering into any relatinship is to risk relatinship breakdown. Everyone is entitled to make his/her own choice with regard to sexual encounters as to whether they feel the benefits of the encounter outweigh the risks.
(and FWIW swingers generally take better care of their sexual health than romantics who like to be 'swept away' and think that asking about condoms spoils the mood...)

So NG what's the difference between just shagging and making love?

are they mutually excusive?

was this girl single?

does she play the 3rd with many others?

did you use condoms?

not being condersending (unlike connie)

blonde is truely interested

Yes she is single (a single mother) but swung with her ex a bit. No she had never been the third with anyone before. Of course we used condoms we are very careful. DH is getting a vasectomy soon so no worries about pregnancy after that (plus she is on the pill).

Lindenavery someone asked me if he shagged her or made love to her so I said I didn't think you could make love to someone if you weren't in love with them is all. Apart from that I don't see a difference

i've done this many a time, and it can range from highly enjoyable, even wonderful, to a bit weird.
i certainly wouldn't say DON'T do it, but make sure you think about it first, and chat with your dp, and later the other party, about do's and dont's.
basically i believe anything between consenting adults is fine and loads of people squash their desires out of fear and it would seem very sad to go through life longing to try something but too wary to. saying that, in truth, some threesomes have been disappointing and would have definately been better in fantasy.
i have had threesomes involving two women and one man, three women, and two men and one woman. i have no regrets. or sexual diseases. keep it safe is my other top tip.
i'm having a bit of a messy time in my relationship right now, but its certainly nothing to do with the threesomes i've enjoyed, with this dp and with others.
in fact i would probably say it has been some of our best sexual times. with current dp we had a long ongoing situation with another woman and it only ended when she moved to Oz...not to escape i may add! we still flirt over facebook!
and its not always better to be the guest. it can all be enjoyable.
but again, to reiterate, play it safe, and remember its not just consenting adults it should be INFORMED consenting adults. be honest about the whole situation with each other.

From other threads I'd say a fair amount of MNetters have indulged and a fair few of the women are bisexual too.

Me and DP would love to do this but haven't a clue where to contact someone new to it, and single...?

I’m as kinky as they come (is that a pun)? Can’t go into too much detail as haven’t name changed but kinky to the extent that it’s my lifestyle and not just a bedroom thing.

My advice is have fun but be cautious. Threesomes tend to fall into the ‘better off staying as a fantasy’ category! Set VERY clear boundaries about what is and what is not acceptable including points of contact on-going. For example would you be happy if your DH contacted your third privately afterwards. If no, say so. The lines get blurred in this type of situation so you need to be explicitly clear about what is and isn’t OK.

I was going to reply to this with my (fairly extensive) experience of fucking couples, but then I looked at your username and went No.

Zombie thread, 9 years old.

Let's count how many people can now point out that this is a

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