I'm getting really concerned about dh's health. He's put on a lot of weight recently and does not exercise regularly. He works in a very stressful environment which mentally he thrives on, but physically it does take its toll. He's had the odd chest pain, he's had stress related ulcers in the past and has a fatty liver that is down to bad diet.
He eats appallingly. He has a bit of a strange attitude towards food that comes from his mum who has serious food issues. She is the sort of person who can tell you every single item of food that has passed your lips in a day if she is here. She's obsessive about gaining weight and dh and his dad have become accustomed to eating in secret when people are not around. He won't sit down and have meals with us - he'll say he's not hungry then disappear to the kitchen 20 minutes later to eat biscuits. He gets up in the middle of the night to eat junk.
His weight is now over 100kg - around 15.5 stone. He's only 5ft 7inches tall so that's a lot.
A friend's husband recently had a stroke in his early 40s and he was fit as a fiddle and not overweight. I get terrified that dh is going to have a heart attack, stroke or develop diabetes if he doesn't do something.
So how do I approach this in a way that doesn't make me sound like I am being hypercritical - just like his mum - but concerned for his health and wellbeing?