Getting on the top

[lovegoddess]

Following on from the how to blow-job thread, which was very informative... Can anyone give me a bit of help with the woman in top position? Never ever got the hang of it!! Is it a siding back and forth movement or a lifting up and down? Sick to death of hearing how great it is - thought that I might have to buy a sexy dvd to look at how it os done - but sure that this is the place to get the handy household hints!

I'm astounded you've been ignored so long. Really, it's what you feel most comfortable doing - up and down is very wearing (but good for the thigh muscles, and gives him a more interesting view), but kind of sliding back and forth puts pressure on your lower back (and other, nice places - I'm almost guaranteed to come fast like that. ) Techniques also vary depending on the relative sizes of the partners.

Really, jump on top, give different variations a try, have a laugh with your DP, find out what works for the two of you. There's never "only one way to do it" when it comes to sex, and it's meant to be fun.

It works for me.

Here's a good description:

"Some women don?t like to be ?on top? because they feel the man gets to be too lazy and only has to lay back and watch the show. You can remedy this by having the man sit up against pillows so that it?s far easier to kiss and the woman can feel more engaged with the man. The woman really does need to set the pace with this position since she?s the one with the greatest range of motion possible. If she needs greater clitoral stimulation than this position normally gives her she should arch forward and do more of a grinding motion that thrusting so that her clitoris will be rubbing up against the man pubic bone. If she needs even more stimulation she should be brave and use her own fingers to stimulate herself while finding a rhythm that works for you both. The man can add even greater stimulation by caressing the sensitive undersides of her buttocks, or stroking her back door (make sure she?s well lubricated) or even inserting a finger into her anus (but ask permission first). "

I reccommend Reverse Cow Girl

Golly I'm a bit flushed after reading that!

Men like a good gawp, so make sure you put on a back arching, breast-shaking howling good show while you're up there...

Being on top is best! You have full control and access to all bits of yourself. My guy loves it when I slide forward and backward, but he has to be very erect and you have to gauge it right or it pops out! But even then if it does, and you're well lubricated you can enjoy just sliding up and down on the outside of it, which is good for clitoral stimulation.... oh where is my guy????