Do swingers still exist, ie outside 1970s French films that is..

[Luxmum]

I just saw the Paddys Day Simpsons, where the new Simpson hot tub attracted dodgy swingers - Mrs Crabopolis and the fat Dr making an appearance. Do swingers actually exist tho? Like, really, who actually shares their partners? I've not met ANY couples I'd like to swop with, though maybe I am picky, and actually, swinging is a really interesting and active social scene.

Yes they exist

Yes they exist

It's a fairly big scene.

yes, big in brighton apparently!

There was a thread about it on MN ages ago, with people who were swingers saying it was great and someone who was an ex-swinger saying actually it could get abusive and people got pressured into things they didn't want to do.

they def.exist i know some who do
not my kinda thing tho

How bizarre, i just cant really see how you'd get into it, or how it'd work logistically. What if you fancied the husband, but your DH didnt fancy the other wife? I saw an article once upon a time, and they pretty much all had mustaches. Was such a cliche I had to laugh.

one couple that i know do partake are actually seemingly respectable as he's a doctor and she's in the WI
lol.am even laughing at that myself now
they have adult children too

lux, did the women have mustaches?

everything seems to be big in Brighton, must be something to so with all that sea air..

So, if the sign of a "swinging" household in the 70s was a pampas grass in the front garden, what is it now?

A topiary box maybe?

D'ya know, the concept of swinging sounds great to me

when your prospective partner swop is Brad Pitt/Angelina Jolie

unfortunately, I think that is a tad unrealistic, so I will give it a miss

do you actually swop within a partnership though, or at swingers parties is it just a free for all and everybody bonks whomever they fancy?

that could be ok, but what about the mingers? I would feel sorry for the rubbish ones, like at the school disco, who don't get anybody interested in 'em

not sorry enough to shag a minger though

Yeh, they do. I know a couple who swing. I'm so fussy about men, I cant imagine finding anyone I'd want to shag unless we 'swung' in Hollywood circles.

He he, maybe there is some sort of gardening code between swingers, like those rings gay people wore during the War. I'd laugh at the thought that everone with those ubiquitous topiary balls were swining, must make a trip to the local gardening centre fraught with sexual inuendo.
Tho if I was swinging, I'd make sure my box was a bit trimmed too...
Gosh, if there was a party and you all partook, it'd be dire, there'd be like a queue beside the good looking bloke, and a huge empty space around the fat one in the corner.. How sad.
AF, the women didn't, but they DID look a bit um, hairy-lentilly..If that makes sense. IIn theory it sounds good- a safe way to spice up a married sex life, but yes, I can imagine I'd be the one stuck in the corner of the room talking to the dentist with a hairy back..

Norbert I was just going to post about the pampas grass when I saw you had beaten me to it.

What does it mean if you have pampas grass in your back garden, I wonder?

Hahahahah BalloonSlayer, the mind boggles

Does anyone remember that Louis Theroux documentary about it? Husband all excited at the prospect of a swinging evening at his house, licking his lips and sweating slightly.
His wife however was v. pissed off at having to clean the house, make vol-au-vents and wash up.

yuck.

It's be too much like picking teams at school again for me
I know a guy who does fetish swinging and invited DH & me along. We politely declined on both fronts

Do they do the 70's car key thing in a bowl still?

I've heard the modern way is to hook up with swingers in your area via various websites after exchanging pics/details etc-all very civilised it seems.

Whatever floats your boat I guess.

The was a program about swingers on vigin sex or whatever it's called the other night. There is a special club near here where you can go and swing, aparently.

Was it the Louis Theroux doc where there was a lot of covering things with plastic sheeting in advance of the party?

oh god the thought of all that spunk on the plastic sheeting

yuk

They opened a swingers club in a village near me recently. A reporter from the local paper went along to check it out - it was hilarious.

Did he get involved Lady?

Gosh,wish our local rag had a juicy reports like that

smallorange, your description of that Louis Theroux doc just made me think of some kind of Victoria Wood sketch... perfect subject matter for her, Derek is getting in quite a lather while Marjorie is worried about her antimacassars getting rumpled