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how safe is it really.........??

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curiousandscared · 18/04/2005 21:18

.....withdrawal that is if you see what i mean. Slightly worried as period is a little late. Dh claims he knew exactly what he was doing but is it possible to get pregnant before they actually you know what. Don't want any more kids but i think he secretly would have liked more.... help???

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cod · 18/04/2005 21:19

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starshaker · 18/04/2005 21:19

my mate swore by withdrawl she now has 2 kids enough said

paolosgirl · 18/04/2005 21:20

Well, if we have, I think it might just be OK to have it again.
I'll watch this thread with interest - we're in the same situation

snafu · 18/04/2005 21:20

I have a small, noisy, messy person in the next room that can prove it isn't safe, iykwim...

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curiousandscared · 18/04/2005 21:20

have we? any idea what the thread was called

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WideWebWitch · 18/04/2005 21:22

withdrawal is a shite method of contraception, didn't they teach you that at school? So yes, you could very easily be pregnant.

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curiousandscared · 18/04/2005 21:22

paolosgirl indeed, you would think at 40 i would know these things

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sparklymieow · 18/04/2005 21:22

mmmmmm, it not foolproof is it?? I don't have an exampl of withdrawal but I have a silly throwaway night example...

NomDePlume · 18/04/2005 21:23

DH and I have used withdrawal for the past 2.5 years with no accidents. It is the least relaible form of contraception though.

The difference is that although we weren't planning more children, it wouldn't have been bad news if I'd have gotten pregnant, whereas you say that you don't want anymore kids, so I do think you need to find a more permanent or reliable form of contraception.

compo · 18/04/2005 21:24

ok sorry if TMI but I always thought men 'leaked' a bit before they fully 'came' which would make it unsafe.

sparklymieow · 18/04/2005 21:24

was it the only time you did it like this??

Gobbledigook · 18/04/2005 21:24

I am living proof it don't work

paolosgirl · 18/04/2005 21:24

I'm 'only' 36 - can't really be expected to know these things at my age! More

NomDePlume · 18/04/2005 21:25

pre-ejaculate. Yup

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curiousandscared · 18/04/2005 21:28

sparkly it is the 2nd time actually and it did work the 1st, but saying that i got pregnant taking the pill with dd1 oh dear

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sparklymieow · 18/04/2005 21:31

how late are you?? I would do a test...

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curiousandscared · 18/04/2005 21:41

2 days

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curiousandscared · 18/04/2005 21:42

think i will get one tomorrow

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mummytosteven · 20/04/2005 10:30

think it's about 75% effective - so better than nothing, but not safe enough to rely on for family planning!

pinkroses · 20/04/2005 14:29

I'm surprised how many people on here use the withdrawal method. I would never trust it...my dh would never be able to withdraw at that moment

I don't want any more kids so I have a coil fitted and we use condoms. I'm not taking any chances. My last baby was due to an out of date condom and he is a little terror...I'm taking no chances this time!!!

paolosgirl · 20/04/2005 22:24

Any news, curious??????!

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curiousandscared · 22/04/2005 00:26

Hooray period has arrived!!!

Thanks for all your advice ladies

Family planning here i come.....

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paolosgirl · 22/04/2005 11:30

Congratulations!!!! Mine still hasn't - oh sh*t.

Toothache · 22/04/2005 11:57

Paolosgirl - How late are you???

paolosgirl · 22/04/2005 13:52

A few days. I'm going away for the weekend, and am not going to spoil it by doing a test before I go (in case it is positive)- but will do one when we get back. Help.