My husband is doing my head in, the 'quirkiness' that I adored about him ...

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when we were first together is grinding on me.

I'm not bothering to name change.

And please don't say anything like 'leave him' because I could never leave him, hes my best friend.

We got together very young, it really was a mad passionate thing at 15! But it was more than that, we just clicked. Never spent a moment apart if we could help it, its the same now.

I still look at him and melt.

But lately things have just been annoying me.

He collects things, Ive posted about this before, I cant see him ever stopping. Star wars things, alien vs predator, scarface,, etc..

At first I thought alot of it was cool, but now it just pisses me off, its all over the house.

And now he bought the most ridiculous thing off ebay, Im not saying what so PLEASE dont ask, but its hideous big and very expensive.

I don't want it in my house, I don't see why he needs it.

I really wish I could have him as he is, all the love he has for me, the patience, but not the 'oddness'.

Everyone else finds him hysterical, I find it embarressing the way he behaves in public. Like a kid!

I don't know

I love him soo much but feel fed up!

One of the old red telephone boxes?

You have to tell us. Please.

I feel for you. Mine has developed an all consuming obsession about fishing; I'm sick of fishing programmes on the telly, fishing magazines with pictures glassy eyed overfed blokes carp staring at me everywhere and the top shelf of the freezer is chock full of fecking maggots amongst other delightful fish attractants....thankfully we have a garage for all the kit.... and I'm sick listening to his justification for another rod/reel/lure/jacket/seat/net yadayadayada or his reasons why he should abandon me with three children every other sunday so that he can have some "much needed time out"

I just know that he will get fed up with it sooner or later and then we will be stuck with all this crap that never gets used.

ok .... ....

blow-up doll ?

It is always a mistake to think men will grow out of things, I don't know any who have

But you were 15 so we'll let you off. I think you need a) a shed and b) a serious but jokey conversation with him. He needs to understand how you feel but in a loving way. Also I think you need to think about why you find it embarrassing now when you didn't before. Do you feel because you've got 3 small kids it's inappropriate? Or have you just got bored of it? Or are you just knackered?

I have a friend who sounds rather like your husband (he's not him, much older). He's lovely but I couldn't live with him. I know he drives his wife to distraction on occasion but she just says that without all that stuff, he wouldn't be him. And I suspect it's the same with your DH.

Sorry, that's probably no help at all!

oops, sorry for the rant

now what has your DH bought????

scale model of jabba the hutt?
stormtrooper uniform?
predator costume?

oh god ....

cant believe im doing this

We have a small 3 bedroomed house, with 1 room plus kitchen downstairs, everyroom is occuied and he bought one of theese ...

full size, from ebay ... where the F will it go?? why would he want it???

A darth vader mask? A full sized Dr Who telephone box? A display case for his light sabers?

Sorry, I am being daft. My DH is a collector of useless crap too but there are limits to what he can reasonably have in the house.

Can your DH not get a shed?

omg lol

that will be the subject of endless "funny" pranks....

being daft holy? he has 2 of the things you listed anyway

useful once a year for halloween

you poor thing you sound so unhappy about this........ hope you sort it soon

Sorry - but thats hilarious.

I can totally understand why you are getting pissed off with him.

Could you put it by the front door and use it as a hat/coat stand? And then sell it on in a couple of months without him noticing?

Aw, I was only joking too

He defo needs a shed or you need to confiscate his credit/debit card! The skeleton thing is too much. There's no way I'd have that in the house.

but it's a fab educational tool!

is it a REAL skeleton?

i dont think its a dead guy, lol,

he said that, hes going to teach DCs all the bones in the body.

well he could teach the children all the bones, joints etc

Agree with the shed idea. Or have you got a garage he can use? or a loft?

And I also agree about the chat. He needs to know how upset this is making you. If you are close then he will take it on board I'm sure.

I don't know what to say about the skeleton...

I can see why you're getting annoyed, but I do think the skeleton is cool

also love the coat stand idea

Perhaps he wants the children to become doctors ?

My dh has a book buying obsession. And he will even buy books that he doesn't realise we've already got. And we're not allowed to give any of them to any charity shops... Oh, and we also have all of the cameras he has had since he was 10. And a projector - not that we've got a screen or any slides.... So its not just yours - but perhaps yours collects more things....!!!

Re the behaviour I think Hassled has a good suggestion.

If we had a lovely big open hall i can see it being a funny coat stand.

but we have tiny cramped hall, just a square.

no idea where its going.

I actually quite like the skeleton is he hoping it might inspire one of your DCs to enter the medical profession?

I'd prefer that to the other collectables, but entirely understand it must all be starting to grate on you now. Could you maybe agree to set aside X amount of space (shed, loft, whatever) thats his for hisstuff & thats it, no skeletons by the front door, lightsabres under the bed etc

Reality - can you actually buy an adult rocking horse?? not sure where I'd put it but what a fab thing to have!