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How long before you lived with your DP/DH ?

75 replies

fruitycake · 17/02/2009 16:16

I'm just wondering because I have been with my DP for almost 4 years now and it seems like one excuse after another when it comes to him moving in. It does get me down. So how was it for everyone else? Was anyone elses dp this scared of commitment?

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Lovemyshoes · 17/02/2009 16:18

Mine moved in with me the morning after the second date, so not much help really

yama · 17/02/2009 16:19

Two months. It would've been sooner but he had to find a job close to me first. Mind you we did live 300 miles apart so it made sense.

MissisBoot · 17/02/2009 16:20

a week

ilovetochat · 17/02/2009 16:21

15 months

sagacious · 17/02/2009 16:23

7 years (but we were very young when we 1st got together and I wanted a female flatshare before I lived with a bloke!)

suwoo · 17/02/2009 16:24

I left my boyfriend and moved straight in with (now) DH. So from day 1 really. Been together 10 years, married 4.

rubyslippers · 17/02/2009 16:24

a year

fruity - have you talked about this to your DP? do you have children together?

CompareTheMeerkat · 17/02/2009 16:25

Nearly 5 years (but we were at university when we met, then I went away for a year and then did a PGCE).

Pinkchampagne · 17/02/2009 16:25

It was over a year & a half into the relationship before I moved in with ex h, but only 6 months before we got married. Could have done with longer before the marriage to see what I was letting myself in for!

Have been with my DP 18 months now & as yet have no plans to move in together. No rush really. It's a bigger deal when you have children to consider in it all. (mine are obviously not DP's & it is a big step for them & him for us to live together)

SoWhat · 17/02/2009 16:26

2 months, but we lived 450 miles apart. I was only 18! That was nearly 8 years ago.

BonsoirAnna · 17/02/2009 16:26

Two and a half years.

NickiSue · 17/02/2009 16:28

Not much help either - we got engaged within 3 months, living together within 6months. Its been 10 years since we got together and we'll have been married for 6yrs in June.

ScorpiowithabigS · 17/02/2009 16:28

about a month

HecateQueenOfGhosts · 17/02/2009 16:29

about 4 hours.

No. Seriously. The time it took to meet him, sleep with him and get from his place to mine.

Married 3 months later.

10 years and 2 kids later....

beanieb · 17/02/2009 16:30

Just under a year, though for most of that I was still living with my ex. My OH moved in practically from the day I exchanged contracts on my new house. I found the first few weeks quite difficult because he was so different to my ex and to be fair I had been living with my ex like we were strangers so we were not in eachothers pockets.

What are his reasons for wanting to live alone? Do you want him to move in with you?

Original poster
fruitycake · 17/02/2009 16:31

Yes we've talked about it alot and he agrees each time but then a reason comes up that he can't. At the moment he's working away so no point but before that he would tell me he couldn't afford to. I have two children from a previous relationship who he adores. At the moment he's saying April but I've heard it all before

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rubyslippers · 17/02/2009 16:32

aw Fruity

if it is makin you sad then you have to come to a resoultion

4 years is a long time to wait

why can't he afford to live with you?

surely pooling your resources is more cost effective?

SoWhat · 17/02/2009 16:32

Hecate. Fast moves!

akhems · 17/02/2009 16:32

met him on monday, he came to my place on tuesday and has been here ever since - 4 years now

Lizzylou · 17/02/2009 16:33

2 1/2 years, but was a long distance relationship for a year of that as DH had to go back to Uni after his gap working year.

bigTillyMint · 17/02/2009 16:33

A year

Fimbo · 17/02/2009 16:34

Dh moved into my flat about 3 mths after we met. It probably would have been longer but his mum and dad had bought a wreck of a property and he would have had to sleep on the floor. So I took pity on him and he never moved out again. His mum cried (he was 27 btw!).

NAB09 · 17/02/2009 16:36

Met Jan 96, moved into my flat November 97. We then bought a house April 98.

MarlaSinger · 17/02/2009 16:37

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NAB09 · 17/02/2009 16:38

fruitycake - are you willing to give him an ultimatum. I wouldn't normally suggest them but 4 years is long enough.