what *ONE* piece of advice would you want to pass on to your daughter

[fattiemumma]

if you could only give one piece of advice what would it be?

having spoken to so many women over the years and to me the most important piece of inromation i can give her is to respect herself and never to allow anyone to treat her in any other way.

what would yours be?

To have the courage to follow your passions and not just live a "settled" life, if it feels wrong then move on!

(this is in light of my sister FINALLY breaking up with a man she wasn't in love with and didn't fancy but trying to convince herself and everyone else he was right for her because he was nice and kind with a good job, ( me, "he's boring! you don't fancy him! end it!")

YOU are the only person you can really depend on - so make sure you're up to the job.

Reach high, for stars lie hidden in your soul. Dream deep, for every dream precedes the goal.

But there are a trillion other things i'd want to say too! I'll spend all night wracking my brains on this one!

Perhaps, simply: Have the courage of your convictions.

That boys don't think the same as girls (on the whole) and that most don't care about romance until they are in their late 20s. Be tough and witty and don't expect boys to fall in love. Would have saved me some early heart ache...

Trust your instincts.

No food can change how you feel/what you've done/what will happen.

Only YOU can.

never to out yourself on a anal sex thread

Never chase men or buses.

I found out way too late in life that 'Treat em mean, keep them keen' really does work in the early dating stages.

work hard and be nice to people

My advice to my daughter would be, Enjoy your daughter.

ditto sebbysmum - classic advice there.

I'd say, don't worry that people are discussing every little detail of your appearance - they're far more worried about themselves.

People who put you down repeatedly are insecure and feel threatened by you.

Always take responsibility for your own life and happiness - blaming everyone else for your problems solves nothing.

You can learn a lot from mistakes, don't let fear of making them hold you back.

'Don't do anything I did as a teenager.' I am terrified of her making the same mistakes and NOT getting away with it like I seemed to.

wow, before i saw the first piece of advice id decided what id say and its virtually identical! have alot of respect for your heart, your body and how they are both treated (cos if you dont no one else will),

i wasnt confident as a teen and it meant that i lost my virginity in what turned into a date rape situation, and i didnt even realise what had happened was wrong and bad until 2 years later when i had a nice caring boyfriend! its affected my sex life ever since (sorry if its TMI)

i will drum it into my son and my new baby (boy or girl) that no means no and a girl has a right to say no at any time and have that respected. i later learnt to dump any crappy men by telling them they didnt deserve me (hee hee!) oh and if a guy (or anyone else come to that) never asks you questions about yourself, then dont bother with em! (wink)

don't waste years of your life thinking i'm too fat/thin/short/tall/ugly. be healthy but don't obsess.

Variation on a well worn theme:

Handsome is as handsome does.

And if I can have another one:

Remember,he really won't respect you in the morning, so respect yourself enough to say no. (Unfashionable but still, oh so true).

I'll be telling my lovely girl that the more you put into life, the more you get out of it. Oh, and when things seem bad, they won't stay that way forever.

Respect/Like/Love Yourself

A friend once said to me that you'll never be happy with anything till you're happy with yourself. He also said that once you stop looking and are happy with what you are, everything will come to you.

Both have worked for me in small ways and I am happy. Cheesy Smile.

As another idea what would you pass onto a son?

Always look behind you as you get up. This has ensured I have many belongings that I would otherwise have lost. Scatty genes.

I have two- die regretting what you've done, not what you haven't and to remember that men do not care what you look like naked- as long as you ARE naked!(Grin)

Love your commets- just cheered up my morning!

ps- re the anal sex comments- have also learnt it is designed for things to come out of, not the other way round....(blush)

Wear Sunscreen .... actually everything on the Sunscreen song - anyone remember this? I am rubbish at links but you can find it on youtube - Baz Luhrman - Everybody's Free (To Wear Sunscreen).