what *ONE* piece of advice would you want to pass on to your daughter

[fattiemumma]

if you could only give one piece of advice what would it be?

having spoken to so many women over the years and to me the most important piece of inromation i can give her is to respect herself and never to allow anyone to treat her in any other way.

what would yours be?

I would say "don't believe in any of the fairy stories, they are a bad gameplan".

And then remind her to respect herself.

squeaver - I do know someone who fell foul of that saying - her bf kept saying he didn't really love her, was just fond of her, but she said the things he did showed her that he did love her. 4 years later, she asked him right out - Do you love me? And he said No. End of relationship.

Great thread!

"You are unique and special - don't forget it and don't have friends or boyfriends who don't make you feel that way."

Don't rely on your man, but stand on your own feet & be independent.

Without reading the whole thread, wax your legs and never shave !!!

For a girl- definitely financial independence, it's not our money, it's mine and yours, and they are sometimes pooled. (modern day equivalent of A room of one's own)

For a boy- Put me in an institution should I turn into a MIL-kind-of-MIL.

Start as you mean to go on...

earn your own money- be financially independent

Women's bodies are designed to enjoy sex and to have vaginal orgasms. Don't let anyone fool you into thinking otherwise.

Zut alors, BonsoirAnna - don't think I'll be passing that pearl of wisdom on to my 8 year old just yet!

(Although last night she did say 'why are the Simpsons always doing sex?', so perhaps she is ready for the next level.....

Blardy pre-watershed TV.)

What's the thing about 'flaunting next Thursday's laundry'? I don't understand the reference ....

(Also, perhaps, then: Have a mum who upfrontly tells you what stuff actually means, so that you're not still completely naive in your mid-forties)

If you go on a diet you will end up heavier than when you started.

eekamoose

i think she means flashing her knickers/fanjo BINK

I would tell my children to trust in what I say becasue when they are older and wiser they will wish they had and will find themselves saying all the same things to their own children.

I wish I could tell my mum this.

Sorry to bring the tone down - I watched 'Terms of Endearment' for the first time last night and am still a bit emotional.

For the first time Schneebly?!

Oh dear I am filling up right now just thinking about the scene in the hospital when she puts on lipstick to say goodbye to the boys and says to them "I think that went quite well don't you?"

If it feels wrong, don't do it.

my advice to my daughter would be

what did i do? now do the opposite. do not repeat history.

I don't have any daughters, but I think this piece of advice plays well with both sons and daughters: avoid control freaks.

eekamoose - yes never seen if before. I cried for about an hour. I struggled with the bit where Aurora was running about in the hospital shouting to get pain relief for her daughter and then when she told her husband that she didn't think he should look after the kids and then when she was saying goodbye to the kids...oh god...

you are responsible for making yourself happy, don't expect anyone esle to do it for you.

Don't waste your youth worrying about how fat you are, in fact you will never be this thin again and you won't be any more or less happy whatever size you are.

Oh other piece of advice (looks sternly at Schneebly) "don't ever watch terms of endearment".

Take good care of yourself (emotionally, physically, financially) - because it will pay back in dividends

I've not seen that film either...

To bloody live life! explore, have fun, meet people, travel and enjoy you get old bloody quickly!

to Enjoy life.. if it doesn't make you happy .. stop doing it.

To make sure that the person you have your children with is kind. Very very important - wish I had listened!!!!