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Need supportive words for friend who split with DH last Valentine's Day

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wassername · 08/02/2009 17:09

One of my friends was left by her DH on Valentine's day last year. Some other friends and I want to do something for her on Valentine's day to show that we are thinking of her and support her and realise that it will be hard for her to think of everyone else in cosy couples that evening.

I wondered about sending her flowers with an upbeat message - I want to tell her how proud we are of her, but I want to be sure I don't make it worse for her by opening up the scars that have not even begun to heal.

Does anyone have any views on this as an idea, and does anyone have any good ideas for a message?

OP posts:
NAB09 · 08/02/2009 17:17

Flowers will be lovely but nothing like red roses.

I would write - Just because.... and leave it at that.

spongebrainbigpants · 08/02/2009 17:25

Maybe go for choccies or wine or something instead of flowers?

Can you spend part of the day with her - for me I think company would be the most important thing.

Poor thing - that must have been so hard .

lessonlearned · 08/02/2009 17:38

Flowers, chocs, company - all good! It's friends like these that make it all worthwhile .

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wassername · 08/02/2009 20:36

Thanks - it's reassuring to know that nobody has said it's a bad idea as I really don't want to make it harder for her. Will certainly avoid roses and I did wonder about a different gift but in a way flowers say 'you don't have to be in a couple to be loved' - don't you think?

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harleyd · 08/02/2009 20:43

flowers are lovely, but i wouldnt sent too deep a message with them
just something cheerful

muffle · 08/02/2009 20:44

I'm sure it won't open wounds, it will be on her mind anyway. Flowers would be lovely but agree spending some time with her would be nice - it's a saturday isn't it, so you could see if she'd like to go for lunch (with just you, if possible or you and DC if not? - ie not with your partner ideally).

Original poster
wassername · 08/02/2009 21:10

I think you're all right about spending some time with her. She's part of a pretty good bunch of friends so I'll see a few of us can take her out for lunch.

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jazzpants · 09/02/2009 22:10

can u girly friends go round with chocolate and wine and spend the night putting the world to rights, will probably do her good, if you have partners would they mind celebrating v.d. a day later instead so you can do this, she is lucky to have lovely friends that think of her xx

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